(Closed) bah bah bah! I don’t want to do a daddy daughter dance :(

posted 8 years ago in Music
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would just explain that it really does not bother you to not be doing the father/daughter dance, and you would rather that they have that moment to themselves.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

It is entirely possible that your Mother-In-Law was just trying to be kind, and trying to demonstrate that she and her husband consider you to be their daughter.  If this is the case, she will completely understand if you explain to her that you appreciate her generous suggestion, but would not want to unintentionally cause distress to your stepfather by having someone else participate in the father/daughter dance.  

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Hm…..tough one. Your Mom sounds a lot like mine; totally awesome!
I think something as simple as “thank you so much for the offer, but I think this would be a wonderful moment for just the two of you to share” should do the trick. If you feel comfortable saying so, “I’ve chosen not to have a father/daughter dance” will suffice as well.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I was in pretty much the same situation as you.  I really didn’t want to do a father/daughter dance because my parents has a relationship similar to your parents and I’m not that close to my dad.  My hubby on the other hand really wanted to share that moment with his mom.  We actually had our parents cut in during our first dance so we danced with them a little, but without putting the spotlight on it being a father/dauther or mother/son dance.  Everyone ended up being happy with that solution.  But, who is walking you down the aisle?  Maybe that should be the person who could cut in and dance with you if you went this route?

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m not going to lie, it was a little bit weird, but it was also weird dancing with some of the other male guests.  As much bad crap as my dad has done, I figured he is still my dad and it was something he really appreciated and it made me feel really good giving him that moment.  For you, though, I think if you have your in-laws, your mom, and your brother watching beside the dance floor during your first dance you can have your Mother-In-Law cut in with your hubby and your bro can cut it with you.  Shoot, and maybe your mom and Father-In-Law can dance together??

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I would bring it up with the Future Mother-In-Law and thank her for kind gesture, but that you want them to have their moment and prefer to be out of it.  I think she will understand once you tell her that you prefer for things to play out this way. 

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