(Closed) Balancing it all

posted 7 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I am not in school anymore, but all the advice I can give you is to be super organized. Work smart. Make a list, and stick to a schedule. When things get crazy busy that is what helps me.

Post # 4
16195 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I planned my wedding while getting my master’s degree and working, so I understand. But I promise it can be done! I largely made use of lists and strategic organization to keep myself on track!

Post # 5
862 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@futuremrsny: I’m definitely in the same boat.  I have a rigorous workload for my last semester and we’re getting married 12 days after we graduated.  I’m pretty much stressed at all times unless I’m sleeping.

Post # 6
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m a graduate student who’s on the brink of seriously planning.  I’m in the collecting information stage right now.  I am suuuuuuper busy – I teach, I have an internship, I work in residence life in exchange for rent-free housing, and I still have to do the things that will help me graduate like research and my comprehensive exams.

First of all, I’m extremely organized.  I schedule my days out on my Google calendar and for the most part, I stick to the schedule unless something comes up (it always does). I make to-do lists and have about a zillion planners, post-it notes, white board, cork board, reminders every freaking where.  I am super forgetful so if I don’t write it down, it’s not in my head.  Remember the Milk is a great website for managing to-do lists and synchronizing them across all my gadgets (I love gadgets!  They increase my productivity!)  This was a trial by fire, because I used to be extremely DISorganized.  Graduate school forces you to self-motivate and self-schedule.

The second thing is that I am sort of scheduling my wedding date around my school and vice versa.  I’m a fourth year PhD student who’s on schedule to graduate in mid-2013.  There are three degree conferral dates in 2013 – February (not gonna happen, and don’t want it to happen), May, and October.  Given my progress, I could graduate in May if I want to.

But there are practical reasons not to.  Graduating in October (5 months later) gives me more time to write and publish papers that will give me a job.  It also means I will have continuous funding until I start my new job, wherever that may be, in the fall of 2013 (my funding conveniently lasts until Sept. 2013).  Not only that, but if I try to graduate in May, that means I have to defend my dissertation in February or early March.  Trying to prepare for my defense, and then revise my dissertation, AND be in the intense stages of planning – not to mention taking a week off for my honeymoon – at the same time is foolishness!!

BUUUT if I don’t have to graduate until October, then I can get married in April and defend in June or thereabouts.  Yessss!

Post # 7
15 posts

well i work full time i have 15 credit hours i get up at 6 stay out til 10 most nights my thing is tht i just have to not get stressed i take it one day at a time my wedding planning is my fun time ,,, i refuse to get stressed about the happiest day of my life i try to just calm myself down and rly at the end of the day no matter what goes wrong you still are married and VACATION! WOOHOO hahaa

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