(Closed) Balancing style vs. cost

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Busy bee

How about asking your Bridesmaid or Best Man how much they are comfortable with paying (total with alteration), get the minimum number of all, and pay the difference between $200 and that number? Your number and they number might not be the same

*We bought the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress for them.

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

hunting_bride :  You don’t have to limit yourself to traditional “bridesmaid” dresses. If  your wedding jis next fall, look at dresses online and in brick and mortar stores right now. Find something you like that is within your BM’s budget (have you asked them what their budget is?) or set yourself an alert for when the price goes down or the dress is on sale, if it  is beyond your BM’s budget.

My budget for a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress varies with the dress. If the bride chooses a dress that has “bridesmaid” stamped all over it and I know I will never wear it again, I am not willing to spend as much on the dress, as if it was a classic LBD.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I said length (also long) and colour and they picked whatever they wanted from there. This ensured that they got a style they liked and they could afford it. One got hers second hand for $50, one online for $120 and another in a department store for $180. All of them are happy with their dresses, and if they aren’t, well, they picked it so that’s not on me. 

If you are worried about prices, just give them a length and a colour and they will figure out something that works for their budget. 

And to answer your side question, it really doesn’t matter what I think is reasonable. It only matters what your bridesmaids think is reasonable and can afford. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

One option is to go the mismatched route with a particular color in mind and look for used dresses online. Sites like Poshmark, eBay, Tradesy, Vinted, and Weddingbee have all kinds of BM dresses for sale. You might not be able to get exact color matches though.

Personally, I would not mind spending about $250, BUT I have a steady income and would PREFER spending less than $100.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I would definitely ask your bridesmaids what they’re comfortable spending if they’ll be paying. My Fiance and I are paying for our bridesmaids/groomsmen and I found a great etsy seller and the dresses are “infinity” dresses so they can be worn how the girls feel comfortable and hopefully wear again. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Personally I’d have a hard time paying more than $150 for a bridesmaid dress. I think around $150 is the most I’ve ever been asked to spend. Also, a higher price tag is easier to stomach if it truly could be worn again (so, no weird colors or details or obvious wedding/prom styles).

If you haven’t already, expand your search to department stores and reputable online retailers with good return/exchange policies (I’ve never shopped Lulu’s but I think that’s a popular site for dresses?) Especially look for sales at those places. Recently I bought a Michael Kors maxi dress at Macy’s for $75, and it was originally $125. That dress, or many other styles at that store, could easily be a bridesmaid dress.

ETA: I also am a huge fan of asking your BM’s to pick their own dresses with certain parameters (color, length, etc). This will allow them to each find something flattering (hopefully) and within their budget, and generally takes the stress out of having to orchestrate everyone getting the same dress.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Step 1 – ask each Bridesmaid or Best Man individually what her budget for a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress is

Step 2 – Start looking at dresses.

You don’t have to stick with JUST Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses from wedding stores. Chains are really good for this – like H&M and the like.

I think there are also some etsy stores that make cheaper Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses that are longer, but they ship from china. You could check those out as well if you really had a specific style.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ask their budgets.  I wouldn’t bat an eye at a $200 pricetag on a bridesmaid dress, but I know it could be unreasonable for others.

If you can’t find anything else you love, can you cover a portion of the cost for the girls?  I paid the deposit for my bridesmaids so they wouldn’t have the whole financial burden

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Personally I wouldn’t be jazzed to spend more than 100$ before alterations. But everyone is different. I think it depends whats going on with shoes, hair, makeup and all the rest- if I didnt need to buy any of those other things 200$ would be fine, but if it was a 200$ dress plus 70$ shoes plus paying for hair and makeup… you catch my drift.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I also did the mismatched thing, but only one of the girls so far has gotten her dress from a bona fide bridal shop. Two have done off the rack department store dresses. (They’re all gorgeous.)

David’s may have the reputation for being the most reasonably priced, but in a lot of cases, you can find better quality, less ‘I’m-wearing-a-bridesmaids-dress-right-now’ dresses for less elsewhere. Be sure to shop around! 

But like the PP’s said, learn your ladies’ budgets, go from there. What’s important is that they’re standing by your side when you get married, not that they’re all wearing perfectly matched dresses.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

How much to spend on a dress shouldn’t be based off of what you would be fine with, it needs to be based off of what they are fine with. So have the budget conversation with each of them (separately) and then go from there. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I just told my girls what color, and type of fabric I’d like the dress to be and they picked out a style in their budget together.  The most I’ve ever paid for a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress is about $160, and that’s about the upper limit for me, depending on if the bride is being specific about shoes/jewelry/hair/makeup & costing me more.  The only people I’ve ever seen that really needed alterations worth having were incredibly short girls.  lol

For my wedding, I paid for hair, told them to do whatever they wanted for makeup, and told them to just wear black or silver shoes they already had. I gave them all jewelry + a gift. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I didn’t want them to pay and arm and a leg for something they will wear once. So I decided it needed to be under $100. I actually found my girls dresses via Amazon. They are amazingly high quality (actually super heavy, sorry girls!) and the seller was great.

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