(Closed) Balancing style vs. cost

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
1939 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I paid for all my bridesmaids dresses and I also struggled to find something nice for a reasonable price, in the end I found all the dresses on BHLDN and the flower girl dress was actually on sale there.

If you’re going to ask your bridesmaids to pay I think you should ask as small amount as possible and then pay the difference for the dresses you want them to have, otherwise if they pay everything I think they should get to pick whatever they want individually!!

Post # 18
9 posts
  • Wedding: June 2017

I just cant get my head round asking the bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses?! Or anything for that matter. I was under the assumption that if u want them to be part of your day you should foot the bill.

i didnt realise it was a thing for bridesmaids to pay for themselves til i found this page. We are paying for dresses, shoes, bags, hair, make up and jewellery, and weve got them all a gift.


personally if i was a bridesmaid that had to pay for their own dress id want to pick it myself i wouldnt want someone else say what i had to spend my money on so maybe the mis matched idea as suggested above is the best route to go down.

Post # 19
318 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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mrsd2b17 :  I think it varies country to country, seems normal in the us where as in the U.K. most brides pay themselves. 

Post # 20
2044 posts
Buzzing bee

Have you checked out eshakti? I’ve ordered from them and they do custom sizing and have an insane range of custom options, and they always have coupons. 

Post # 21
94 posts
Worker bee

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mrsd2b17 :  agree completely with this. If the bridesmaids have to pay then let them choose.

Post # 22
2141 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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slomotion :  they look awesome

Post # 23
533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Why don’t you pay for the dresses yourself?:) I think the american tradition to make the BMs pay for the dresses they buy to be in your wedding are really odd? And kind of stupid. It’s much better if the bride just buys what she wants for her girls?! In case she is not ok with them wearing something of their own ofc.

Post # 24
484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I was in a wedding last year where the dresses were from Azazie and the ordering experience was great, the dresses were high quality, and the cost is pretty reasonable. Maybe check there?


Post # 25
1931 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Don’t be afraid to shop in stores that aren’t completely formal. Marciano. Bebe. Guess. THe Bay. BCBG. THey all have sections for formal wear and come sale time they beat DB anyway.

Post # 26
13657 posts
Honey Beekeeper

In the US, the bride is supposed to consult her party first as to style and budget. If there’s something you love that is over someone’s price range, you can offer to pay the difference. 

You may read otherwise, but since professional hair and makeup were mentioned, you can offer to pay, but your BMs don’t have to make use of that option and you can’t require it. Ditto shoes, accessories, nail color, a specific hairstyle etc. You can weigh in on dress selection, and you can offer to pay for other things if you like, but that’s all. 

Post # 27
10507 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I told my bridesmaids length and color and let them pick what they wanted. One wore a dress she had from another wedding she was a bridesmaid in, another borrowed a dress from a friend, and my maid of honor bought one on sale at a department store and she’s already had the opportunity to wear it again 🙂

For my brother’s wedding in December, his fiancée did the same thing and I just bought my dress at Macy’s for $100 but it will need to be hemmed. One of her other bridesmaids got a dress from David’s Bridal and two others found thiers at thrift shops. So everyone got to work within thier own budget.

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