- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
A few months ago, one of our business acquiantances/ quasi-friends found out we were getting married and said her present to us would be dance lessons. She dances with a latin dance company and, in my opinion, she was offering her services as a gift, so we said sure.
Things have been really busy (obviously) and she recently contacted me on my FB wall to tell me to schedule our lessons. I told her we couldn’t really make it to the studio downtown after work so would she mind coming to our house. She lives pretty close to us. She said sure.
She came to our house last night and started showing us the basics of the routine for about an hour. It was fun and we were getting into it. At the end of the lesson she said we would probably need four lessons, and figured doing it at our house was better because we wouldn’t have to pay a studio fee of $65 and that she would charge us $50 a lesson. I paid this, but felt a little miffed.
This really bugged me, as we’re getting mighty close, and spending another $200 would go a long way somewhere else. What gets me the most is that she was being so pushy about scheduling it, and on top of that, that she had previously said it was a gift (she is invited to our wedding because we felt uncomfortable not inviting her in the midst of this offer). I feel kind of tricked into committing to something we would not have commited to otherwise, if it wasn’t for her persistence and offer. But I felt rude mentioning that she said it was a gift to us.
Thinking about it now, I don’t know if this particular expense is worth it, but I feel a little guilty telling her we aren’t interesting in finishing out the rest of the dance with her. My Fiance is fine with whatever the decision, but I would rather put the money towards Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts, if I am to be honest.
Please understand that I didn’t feel “entitled” to dance lessons. But I hadn’t gone out of my way to ask her for her help when she first mentioned it or any time after.
What is the best course of action, bees?