Post # 1
Help! My older cousin, who I’m very close with is in a band has has offered to play at our wedding for free. As greatful as I am for this gesture, I originally had wanted a DJ for our wedding. We have a younger crowd and I feel like a band would be too low energy. I’ve seen them play before, they’re good, but I’m not sure if it’s what I’m looking for. They’re older guys and they play a lot of typical “bar” music, I’m not sure how much dancing would be going on. He said he would not be offended at all if I decided to go with a DJ, but of course I’m worried about hurting his feelings. Even worse, my fiance wants them to play and he got really upset when I explained that I’d rather spend the money on the DJ. Trying to visualize it, I’m just not sure how happy I would be with the band, especially since entertainment is something that people remember the most about a wedding. Any advice? I’m not so much worried about my cousin, but I’m not sure how to compromise with my fiance. Saving the money would be an incredible advantage, but I’m not sure if it’s worth regretting. ANy thoughts?
Post # 3
i prefer a dj also. my cousin had a band play for her wedding and they were good, but there wasn’t a variety of music. they did have cd’s to play on the stereo when the band was on a break, but it wasn’t the same.
could you have the band play for the half evening and the dj the other half? or maybe they could take turns?
Post # 4
I would say it depends on the band…our band plays a wide array of music and sounds A-M-A-Z-I-N-G (I know someone who actually booked their wedding date around them!) but its also costing us 10k! We chose them bc they have received rave reviews and I think a band is better than a DJ as far as entertainment goes…BUT if the band can’t play the latest hits stick with a dj! OR have the band play during the ceremony and maybe even a few songs throughout the night
Post # 5
Band up to cake cutting, then DJ? I think a half and half situation would be best.
Post # 6
I’d go with the DJ. My major reason is the lighting and wedding experience some DJs have. They really keep the night flowing and help direct the guests from dinner, to cake cutting, to first dances, etc.
Post # 7
Thanks everyone, my fiance just got really upset at the thought that I didn’t want the band to play. He’s been great with the whole planning process, but he’s obviously trying to save money. He thinks it’s silly to spend the money when we have a free band, I on the other hand, would be willing to pay. They’re not the “coolest” band, they play at campgrounds, retirement parties, small bars, and some weddings. Think Three Doors Down, Creed, and Nickleback songs. I thought about doing half and half or setting up an IPod, but there’s not really smooth transitions with an ipod. We LOVE to dance and we’re in our 20s so our friends love to dance as well. Entertainment is such a large decision!
Post # 8
We never even questioned that we’d rather have a live band. My fiance is a musician. He instantly nixed a DJ because he absolutely hates the idea of them. We also hate a lot of modern club music. And since our wedding guest list is mostly family, it wouldn’t be appropriate anyways. If you have a lot of younger people coming and dancing is a priority then a DJ may be best. They’re certainly cheaper too.
Post # 9
If you can afford a good band, do it!! I would think a decent band would be at least 5K. Ours is 6K, but we are only having 1 performer for the ceremony and cocktail, 3 hours of live band (6 performers) and then the last hour of DJ since it will mostly just be young people dancing at that hour. I would probably do a DJ over an amateur band though…
Post # 10
I’d have him play for cocktail hour and then switch to a DJ. That way, he can also enjoy some of the wedding.