Post # 1
Hi! I’m a Newbee but I have a little dilema and I was wondering if you Bees could help me out. My engagement ring is a three stone princess cut and my wedding band has 15 channel set princess cut diamonds in it. Well before my wedding I chose to have the rings soldered together for a few reasons. #1: I was concerned that my wedding band would rub against the prongs of my e-ring and wear them down/ ruin them #2: I thought it was romantic if they were blessed as one during the ceremony #3: the e-ring was thinner than the wedding band and this way they could size up the e-ring so that they sit flush.
HOWEVER now that I’ve been married for roughly 7 months I’ve run into a bit of a problem. My e-ring doesn’t sit too terribly high but I’ve still been managing to bang it up quite a bit at work. I’ve even had the corner of my main stone chip (no proof that it happened at work but it is likely) I don’t want to go to work ringless and wearing them on a chain makes me paranoid that I could lose them.
My wedding band would fare much better on its own at work, SO I’ve been toying with the idea of having them un-soldered (which Kay assured me they could do when I sent them off before my wedding) Has anyone had this done? I’m concerned that the rings will be ruined if I do this.
I would greatly appreciate some advice and input. Here is a pic so that you can get a better idea. (It is only soldered in the very back of the rings)
Post # 3
I’ve have never heard of it. But I have heard that once rings are soldered it is permanent. I assume that means they would be ruined if unsoldering was attempted. How about simply purchasing another wedding band to wear to work?
Post # 4
That may be an option. Our 1 yr anniversary is coming up in June and we’ve been discussing an anniversary band that I never planned on soldering to the wedding set. I could just wear that to work if need be.
Post # 5
A lady I work with has 4 rings solderied together. And now she is a little older, she cant get the rings on her finger. Individually she would be able to, but together she can’t get them over her knuckle.
She was talking about it with me, and was upset she had been told that she can’t have them seperated as their edges basically would be ruined. I don’t know it it possibly depends on how they were joined in the first place.
I knew then that I would not be getting my bridal set joined together.
Post # 6
Soldering is fully reversible, I’ve done it before (not with my wedding band and engagement ring, but with other things). They have to unsolder them if you ever need them resized or anything, and it’s a fairly straight-foward process from what I’ve been told. The jeweler will cut the two rings apart, then buff and polish the two rings like new. You might lose some metal off the edges in the process, but they should be able to fill this in. Just be sure to take it to someone who knows what they’re doing and has done this before.
Post # 7
In my rings from my prior marriage, they soldered them together unevenly and crookedly, and I asked them undo it and re solder them. It was no problem, and caused no damage, although their work at this particular store was sloppy all around.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House
My FI’s mom had her wedding band soldered… but wanted a new one… and she got them unsoldered and gave us the old one, so we can use the diamonds in anniversary bands down the line.
The ring has a very scratchy edge where it was soldered and it would be unwearable. I think they file them apart.
Post # 9
I originally didn’t want my rings soldered, but the jeweller sort of talked me into it. Plus my DH’s grandma showed me her set that wasn’t solderd and they were wore down to almost nothing in the back and she actually had to have them soldered to save them in the end–it was that or replace them altogether and she didn’t want that. I never thought that I would wan’t to wear my wedding ring seperately and I was worried about wearing down my prongs so I kind of just went with it. Its not like its absolutely horrible with them soldered, but now I can definitely see the benefit of having them seperate. If I had a different kind of e-ring I probably wouldn’t even have considered it…
Post # 10
I had my ring unsoldered when I reset my engagement ring. It took him only a few minutes to seperate them and he polished the edges so they were smooth again. Once I got my new setting, I had them re-soldered. I tried them seperate for about a week but the constant turning was driving me nuts (it is a curved band). He only soldered them in two small spots in the back though so it probably depends how they were done in the first place.
Post # 11
I had my rings unsoldered. 🙂 I had the same rings you do, actually! Princess cut 3 stone with a channel princess band. As someone else said, they have to unsolder the rings to resize them and they do that all the time. Your shanks are smooth so it won’t even show when it’s done. I decided that I liked wearing my band alone and it worked better for me that way. From what I understand, gold solder has a much lower melting point than gold, so they simply melt the solder and pull the rings apart, then smooth and buff any rough spots. You can’t tell mine were ever together.
Post # 12
I work in a laboratory and have to wear gloves all day long. My ring obviously kept snagging on them so I asked my jewler if they could lower the setting so it didn’t stick up so high. There were able to and I was much happier. However, the downside if it matters to you is that they seat them up high so that more light can come in from the bottom making the diamond sparkle a little more which you will lose some if you have it seated lower. Personally I didn’t mind. The ring still looked amazing and honestly I couldn’t even tell the difference. Just a thought.
Post # 13
Thank you all so much for your input! I have decided to have Kay try to unsolder the rings. They have assured me that the rings will look like new. I’m hoping that this option gives me some more versatility and will allow me to protect my e-ring a bit more. The only downside so far is the fact that I have to go 2 weeks without my rings 🙁
Post # 14
I know you can. My mother had it done for one reason or another. I have a similar problem where I can’t wear my e-ring to work and but I don’t want to risk damaging my wedding band to risk the diamonds getting knocked out at work. So I have a work ring Mr. Hedgie got me. It is still sentimental to me because he got it for me to wear in place of my set to work. If you are worried about getting then un-soldered that is alwasy a possibility!