Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
The first engagement ring I had was very beautiful, but verrrry modest in stone size. I’m not really a ring wearer in general, but I got used to it eventually. Had it for a few months. Now have a different ring** that is quite a bit larger. I feel like a braggart posting that – it’s still less than 1 carat and white sapphire, not diamond, so the whole shebang (solitaire ering + pave wedding band) was less than we spend on groceries in a month. But it’s set high and sits kind of 3D.
And I am constantly whacking it against stuff.
Stuff in drawers, stuff at my desk, my own face (OW!), the steering wheel of the car. The other morning I went to slide my arms around my sleeping Darling Husband and accidentally scratched the heck out of his back with it; so much for a sweet/sexy wake-up call! I’m a klutz, so that’s part of it. But it’s vexing to constantly be worried I’m going to damage it or scratch the stone. It has reached the point where I’m considering ditching the e-ring (maybe putting it in a shadowbox with my bouquet on my dresser?) and just wearing the wedding band.
Anyone have thoughts or advice? If you were never a ring-wearer before you got married, how did you adjust?
** Anyone who was following this saga and wants to know the end, short version: package was received, neither Darling Husband nor I have spoken to Mother-In-Law since, SIL brought it up during a phone conversation and Mother-In-Law started crying then hung up on her, no one has mentioned it since. Awkward.
Post # 2
rachel85: I just keep whacking away lol. I’m klutzy, do a lot of stuff with my hands, and I feel it’s just inevitable. I’ve had my ring for 4+ years, and it’s held up alright, however I don’t have a particularly large or highset ring (6mm moissy). If you’re really concerned, maybe you could just wear the band day to day and save the Engagement Ring for going out/special occasions?
Post # 3
I smacked mine on stuff a lot, too, when I first got it. But after a month or so I got used to it and rarely hit it on anything anymore. I didn’t wear a ring on that hand (I had a silver band on my right hand but nothing with stones in it) and don’t wear much jewelry in general.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - Stevens Estate
rachel85: I hit my ring on everything too. I don’t wear jewelry, just e-ring. Mine is not high, just kind of wide (halo ring), so it catches everything. So aggravating. I only wear it during the day while I’m out, at work, so forth. As soon as I get home, it comes off and goes right in the box. I love it so much and I’m afraid I’m going to knock a stone loose or something. I have it insured and that’s about as much as I can do as far as protection. I just try to be extra careful and watch where I’m flinging my hand, but still, I hit it on something at least once a week. Sigh.
Post # 5
I wanted to wear my e-ring all the time but, despite the fact that it’s not particularly high cut or large, I scratched my back to bleeding point fastening my bra one morning!! I don’t know how the Bees with giant rings do it!
Now we’re married I wear my band all the time and my e-ring only when I go out. Since we’ve moved to a new country and I work from home and often when we’re going out it’s to the beach, that adds up to not much!! Darling Husband is away for work and sometimes when I’m missing him more than usual I put it on and just sit and look at it 🙂
Post # 6
I used to smack mine on things all the time and scratch Darling Husband with it a LOT (and I have a marquise, so they were good solid scratches 😉 ). After a while, I just got used to it. Took a few months, and now I only bang it on things occasionally.
IF it’s really really bugging you, could you consider getting the setting altered so it sits down a bit? I specifically told Darling Husband back when we were just talking about engagement that I was open to pretty much anything, but did not want a high setting. I wanted to put my hand in my pocket without a lot of twisting and nonsense. So, even though I have a very good sized stone, the point of the diamond on the bottom is only a couple milimeters above the band and I haven’t had a problem after the initial adjustment.
Post # 7
i had a low but intricate ring initially and hated catching and knocking it on things. unfortunately it had to go back (i loved it but it wasn’t right). having that made me realise for every day where i wanted something easier to wear so i have a bezel setting. it’s assymetrical for interest and i love it. no catching, knocking, scratching or fear of damaging the setting. yay! but i still take it off often because it feels odd. making myself keep it on 24-7 now!