(Closed) Bank Account Situation?

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: How much have you combined finances?
    Joint all the way! Paychecks go into one checking, savings go into one savings. No personal accts. : (30 votes)
    34 %
    Halfway: One joint checking for bills etc, Personal checking and savings accounts. : (46 votes)
    52 %
    Separate but equal: We have no joint accounts. : (9 votes)
    10 %
    Other? explain below. : (4 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    199 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    We have been living together for 3 years now and everything we have is together, bank accounts and savings accounts. We do have credit cards separet but I think that if you contribute to the bank account then you are entitled to pay your separete bills from that joint account. I pay all the bills he couldn’t even start telling you when his credit card bills are due. I do tell him what goes in and what comes out and such. I think it’s personal preference and how comfortable you feel with FH knowing everything you spend on.

    Post # 4
    80 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    We have one joint account. We each put 80% of our paycheck into the joint account to pay bills and groceries, dinners out etc. The other 20% has to cover our own expenses such as nights out without the other with friends, gas, and clothes. We don’t have any credit card debt, but when we did we forked over as much of our own money as we could and paid the rest from joint, just to get it done with. Neither of us is very good at sticking to our 20% so we just get money from the joint on an as needed basis. It’s not a perfect science, but we’re working on it.

    Post # 5
    2434 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2008

    When we moved in together (a few months before we were engaged) we each had our own accounts and one joint checking that we contributed to for rent and other shared expenses.

    Once we got hitched, we totally combined all our accounts- one savings, one checking, and one high interest savings account with ING.  It helps us to budget better because we each know how much we’ve got (as opposed to contantly checking with each other to see how much we each have in our accounts like we did before we merged).

    However, we did keep separate credit cards so if we want to surprise each other with something, we won’t see it on the statement ahead of time!

    From what I’ve heard, going joint is the best way to do it.  Often times you can get better interest rates and such when you have more money (which can be accomplished by pooling assets) and it can be better for your credit score not to have lots of accounts with lots of open lines of credit all over the place. 

    Post # 6
    5822 posts
    Bee Keeper

    We have ALWAYS had combined finances.  Seriously!  But I highly recommend you still each keep your SEPARATE credit cards, etc.  The reason is because if someone steals your information, there will only be fraud on ONE credit report, not both.  Otherwise you’ll get a double hit (and creditors don’t always agree that your identity was stolen!)  So I think out of practicality you should have some items that are joint, but the majority separate.

    Post # 7
    6009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Right now we have two joint accounts together, and I have a personal account.  We also have personal credit cards.  After the wedding, I’ll get rid of my personal account, and just use the joint accounts (he pays all the bills anyway; even my students loans and credit card bills).  I think we’ll both keep our credit cards, though.  That way, there is still the possibility of buying each other something without the other one knowing (like for birthdays, Crhistmas, etc…).

    Post # 8
    613 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    we have a joint account for household bills and savings and personal accounts also.  My Fiance is terrible with money.  I refuse to have to be in charge of all of his spending.  I make sure all of the bills get paid (including both of our credit cards), but he uses his personal account for all his other needs….gas lunch dry cleaners etc.  I would be too stressed if I had to keep track of his spending to balance 1 joint checking account.  We dont take withdrawals from out joing account…we only use it to pay bills…

    Post # 10
    7052 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Wow.  I am so glad this thread came up!  It certainly gives me something to think of.  I think we’ll probably go with joint, but it’s gonna be a real change for me..I am super independent and have run my household for quite a while as a single, working mom. 

    I also like the idea of the separate account for "fun stuff" like clothes, gift items, etc.

    One thing I did learn..when I divorced..my xh and I had joint credit cards and they had a fairly high limit.  He defaulted on them, leaving ME to pay for them when I retained an attorney and didn’t go through things "his way" (aka the unfair division of assets decided by himself way).  So remember that when you have a joint credit card.  These days, it is important to retain a great credit report in this wild economy.  I worked HARD and I mean hard to pay them off.  He finally was ordered by the courts to pay half, but it was almost a year later on, and had I not continued the payments, it could have been horrible..but just to let you know.

    I do know of one couple to marry soon, and there was an issue she had with him..she was worried about some of his past "payment situations" regarding credit cards as he’d defaulted on a few and (she’s somebody I used to work with who recently married) they discussed this very issue (mingling checking accounts, possibility of joint credit cards with her adding him onto a few accounts) with their counselor BEFORE they married to make sure no wierd issues surfaced years down the road..  

    Post # 11
    329 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    Once we got engaged we decided to combine all our finances. We’d been living together for over a year and let me tell you–things got soooooo much simpler after that. While we hadn’t kept track of every little thing (ex: whoever went shopping paid for groceries, no running account) we split rent and big expenses down the middle. It was exhausting to keep track!

    The thing I realized is that this now makes us really accountable to eachother. I’m not going to go buy a super expensive new pair of shoes without consulting with him (no matter how pretty they are) and he’s not going to buy great seats at a baseball game without discussion. Which makes the most sense–if we are serious about a future together, big purchases impact eachother. It’s really gotten us thinking long term about our savings, investments, etc.

    Post # 12
    1276 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    We are slowly moving toward being completely joint.  We’ve been living together for three years, though.  In the beginning everything was separate and more or less half and half.  Neither of us likes doing accounting though, so we figured out that if we split rent evenly, I paid bills (phone, utilities, cable etc) and he bought groceries we’d be more or less even.  Eating out mostly was every other time or whatever.  He graduated before me, though, and then jumped to earning like 6 times my grad school stipend.  Then 6 mos later I had to pick a job and ended up picking a somewhat lower paying one that was closer to him.  At that point we started to be less equal about how we split our finances, though it was a little rough negotiating it all.

    Once we got engaged it was much easier b/c we consciously have been combining our finances.  We have a joint savings account for our house, and one for general savings.  We are still maintaining separate CC’s and checking accounts at the moment, but will be combining them soon.  I’m a big believer that finances should be completely joint, but I also see the wisdom in going a different route.  I think, for me, one of my issues is that I chose a smaller paycheck to make our relationship work.  I don’t regret this…but I know it’s possible that I may choose later on to take some time off work for kids etc. also, and I don’t want to feel that somehow my say in finances is diminished b/c of it.  (My Fiance insists that would never happen, but I just think it can be more difficult when you see money going out of different accounts.  He is also much more conservative financially than I am, so I think having joint accounts would make it easier to see how our spending impacts both of us.)  I sometimes feel that my Mom defers to my Dad (they’re both doctors but he earns more) since she feels that he’s the breadwinner; I just don’t want it to be that way for me.  I don’t want to ever feel like I need my husband’s "permission" to do something.  Yes we have to make decisions together, but I feel like separate accounts will always feel like "his money" and "my money" and I don’t want that.

    Post # 13
    116 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2007

    I picked "halfway" because we have a joint account and separate accounts, but we never use the personal ones (I guess they are there in case one of us wants to surprise the other with something without revealing the cost?). All money goes into the joint account anyway, and all bills (personal and joint) come out of that account.

    Post # 15
    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    So far, we just have our individual accounts. After the wedding, we will open a joint a checking account. But like bellenga, I would still like my own account. For 15 years, I’ve had my  own account and would like to keep a separate account for personal items, cothes, gifts, etc.

    Post # 16
    235 posts
    Helper bee

    We have completely separate accounts and it works fine for us.  Neither of us want to explain or have to justify purchases to one another– I am a bargain diva and he scoffs at the idea of a sale rack (I dont want to let my inner control freak get the best of me).  We split some bills down the middle and send in two checks, some bills he pays, and others I pay. 

    We have one ‘joint’ account although its in my name, for our house which we pay into equally. 


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