Post # 1
For the longest time, I planned to have my wedding dress made into a baptismal gown for our children. I know the chances of a hypothetical daughter wanting to wear it as her wedding gown/being the right size are slim, and it would be a beautiful symbol of the child as a product of our marriage. And what else am I going to do with my wedding gown?
But…now that the time is here…I’m hesistant. If we were expecting a girl, I would consider holding off until her First Communion, and seeing if she’d want to have her dress made from my gown. But this is a boy, and I don’t want to bank on having a girl eventually (we will probably stop at 2 or 3 kids).
There is a family baptismal gown on my husband’s side of the family that is an option, but sometimes I like spiting the in-laws a bit. 😛 (MIL says she’s fine with whatever I choose; her sisters are another story, but Darling Husband says he’ll defend whatever choice I make.) I have no issues with a simple gown for a boy, but this family gown is…pretty girly.
My sister did point out there’s enough fabric in my gown that unless we have a much larger family than planned, each baby can have his/her own gown. We can use some of the plain satin for this boy, and if I have a girl, we can use some of the more elaborate beaded parts.
Darling Husband says the decision is mine. Help me out!
Post # 3
I would probably use the family gown* to keep the tradition going. What is too “girly” is up to somebody’s own tastes and what not. Nobody is really going to care, and gender roles/stereotypes are only what you make of them.
*Take my opinion with a grain of salt. I am an ex-Catholic now Atheist so my opinions probably aren’t the best. I have less-than-stellar opinions on baptism in general.
Post # 4
@Hyperventilate: Your opinion is certainly still valid. 🙂
I think some of my distaste towards the family gown is the way it was presented to me. I happened to mention to Mother-In-Law (well before I was pregnant) what I planned to do with my wedding dress. She didn’t seem to object at that point and was more, “Oh, interesting idea.”
Then a week later, she says, “Oh, by the way, we still have DH’s baptismal gown around if you don’t want to cut up your dress.” Okay, noted. Mentioned it to DH; he didn’t care.
A few months later, one of the aunts e-mails Darling Husband and I an online photo album of every baby that’s worn the gown–every baby in the family for three generations now, and then some random cousins of cousins that aren’t directly part of the family line.
Umm…if there was such a family tradition of this, why not tell us up front?!?!?!?
Post # 5
I really like the idea of having a Christening gown suitable for a boy made from your wedding dress.
As you already noted, if your next child (assuming there is one) would be a girl, you could have a second, more elaborate Christening gown made from some of the more embellished portions of the dress. Regardless of how many children you would decide to have after that, there would be no need to make additional Christening gowns for future children, since they each would be able to wear one of the two gowns you already (theoretically) had made.
This approach should allow you to have enough fabric remaining to still make a third garment — a beautiful, First Communion dress to be worn by any daughters you may have.
Post # 6
@Brielle: I like the way you think! Another variation would be to use the family gown for any girls, with the option of First Communion dress down the road. My only hesitation is if we have more than one girl, there’s no guarantee the same First Communion dress would fit all of them. My sister and I were dramatically different builds, even at the age of seven.
Post # 7
Well, you might still be OK, if the seamstress builds in enough fabric to adjust the size of the dress. My niece was my flower girl when she was five, and, this spring, when she was eight and much taller (and just larger in general after three years of growth) she wore the same dress and it looked gorgeous on her. However, it definitely had to be altered.
Post # 8
@Brielle: +1 on this fabulous idea!
Post # 9
@peaches13: I don’t think it’s at all weird, By The Way, that the family didn’t tell you about the other baptismal gown “up front.” By nature, that’s not the sort of thing that really gets brought up until it’s relevant – i.e. when you’re pregnant. Weird would have been if someone had told you when you got engaged/as you were planning the wedding, etc., that there was this family baptismal gown that you absolutely HAD to use when you start popping out babies …
It sounds like you don’t always have the smoothest relationship with Mother-In-Law, so all I’m saying is, give her credit where credit is due: it sounds like she actually behaved extremely reasonably when the subject came up.
Post # 10
@KCKnd2: I’m just not happy she only mentioned it was DH’s gown and didn’t mention the rest of the history. That would have been a great time to tell me, or when I mentioned the whole idea with my dress in the first place. DH had no idea about the family history, either, until his aunt e-mailed out the photo album months later.
But, yes, she is reasonable. She actually brought up the topic a few weeks ago and said since this is a boy, she understands if we want to find a baptismal suit/something less frilly.