(Closed) Bar help!

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

They don’t offer a well option?  Like beer and wine only?  Then cash for the other drinks?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Add a bar to your reception room, no fun for your guests to have to constantly leave your reception for drinks. 

Don’t feel bad about a cash bar, these days it’s becoming more and more common.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’d see about hosting beer & wine only.  It’s better than nothing, and if someone is too picky to have a nice glass of wine (maybe it’s not their thing!) then they can walk around the corner in the hotel & buy whatever they want.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

In my family, the party seems to cluster around the bar and in that case I’d be worried that most of my guests will end up out in the hallway drinking their drinks the whole night and not spending it inside dancing with me!  Also, I know my DJ reccommended putting the dance floor close to the bar for the same reason.  So I’d just consider that and try to think back to any other family weddings and if this was or wasn’t a trend there.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 1993

If they don’t allow you to bring your drink into the reception room, you’re going to have a LOT of your guests not even at your reception because they’re all going to be out by the bar.

With this set up I’d honestly forego the bar altogether and just have everyone meet up at a bar afterward.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Would they sell you bottles of wine to put on each table with dinner? 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@out4answers:  Yikes. That’s a pain then. I’m from the school of thought, that if you’re inviting guests to something, they should not pay for a thing. Therefore, i’m not a fan of a cash bar, and I would be horrified if I ever went a wedding that was. I think your best bet is to take that money and buy a few drinks, or add it into your wedding in another way – like extra desserts or a photobooth.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Honestly, I’d tell the venue that I think they’re being unreasonable and inflexible.  I’m sure you’re not the first bride on a budget, and they should be willing to work with you a little- if you’re trying to offer your guests some hosted beverages, they should try and make that happen for you.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We offered a set limit. We did an open $500 bar and after the max was reached they took down our sign that said something about cocktail hour drinks being provided by bride and groom and then the rest was cash bar! We couldn’t afford open. WAYYY too many drinkers in our families. Worst part was the $500 max was reached before we even got there! We also did punch cards for our BM’s and Groomsmen. I didn’t want them to have to pay, so they got 7 drinks on us which worked well.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

As a bartender for weddings, I’ve seen a few things done. 

Tickets – pain in the ass, but allows you to control the amount of drinks that each person gets

Set limit – goes faster than you think, not my favourite option

Set time limit – provide the guests with drinks until a set time, and don’t have it announced what time it’s closing at, or else you’ll get inconsiderate guests running up to the bar and ordering like it’s last call. This works well if there’s just a sign on the bar saying drinks are free during dinner, and that way you’re giving a majority of you’re guests one or two free drinks. Hopefully no one has started the heavy drinking by the end of dinner, and they wait until later at the beginning of the reception.

We’re doing a cash bar, but where we’re from, it’s not frowned upon, and the hall I volunteer for rarely does open bars anymore. It’s a smaller town so I guess it’s the norm.

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