Post # 1
Okay, so I am working with a couple who just doesn’t haven’t in their budget to offer an open bar. But due to state laws a cash bar isn’t an option, either. We’ve come up with a creative a celver way to get around these sticky points, but need some super-savvy writers to help with the exact signage words….basically, want to say something including the fact that they are honeymooning in Ireland and have a “donation” jar if people feel inclinded to make a donation to their “bar tab throughout Ireland” (which will also allow them to be able to offer an open bar!! Make sense???
Any fun and quirky phrases would be AWESOME!!!! THanks in advance!!!
Post # 3
Are you a wedding planner? Seems kinda shady to skirt the rules like that . And tacky to ask for money. They should host what they can afford, not trick the guests into paying for the “open” bar.
Post # 4
It’s a bit deceptive…because the money is not really going to be spent in Ireland, it seems like most of it will pay for an open bar. Can they afford to offer just beer, wine and a signature cocktail or something rather than going full open bar? If I saw a donation jar at a wedding I would not donate much to it and I wouldn’t donate every time I went up to get another drink…
Post # 5
Where is this? I’ve never heard of a ban on cash bar.
Are they not allowed to bring alcohol in?
I’m all for bending a few rules, but I don’t think the “honeymoon donations” thing will work. One, people won’t understand it’s for their drinks (unless you literally say cash bar). Two, the guests will think it’s super shady.
Post # 6
Won’t they have to pay upfront for the bar? If it’s donations how are you going to be sure they get enough back?
Besides that, I don’t think there’s a way to word this that won’t come off as them just asking for money. Instead can they just host a partial bar?
Post # 7
It’s possible they are bringing in their own alcohol. If that’s the case in a lot of places they wouldn’t be able to charge without a liquor license. So what they want to do would be similar to a keg party charging for your cup instead of the alcohol. But a wedding is not a kegger.
Post # 8
@j5hake: While honeymoons are great, if they really want to have a bar at their wedding, they need to re-think their entire budget (including their honeymoon). It is not nice to 1) lie to guests and 2) ask them to pay for the bar tab (unless it’s a cash bar).
Post # 9
What state doesn’t allow a cash bar? You seem sketchy.
There is no cutesy way to force people into paying for the open bar, and it’s kind of rude to ask. If the couple cannot afford to have liquor/a bar, then they can’t. And that’s that.
Post # 10
Ah, I can see what that would be illegal.
Yeah. This is shady. Don’t do it. Your options should be legal cash bar or open bar (or partial open bar). Don’t do an illegal cash bar.
Post # 11
Even if they do it I don’t think they’ll get much back, probably more like how people would tip (about $1 a drink) or would only put something in the first round, not additional rounds of drinks. Also would the bartender than have a tip cup also? Is the couple going to tip the bartender since they would essentially be taking his tips?
Post # 12
This is nothing short of tacky and shady…Do not take your tips away from your bartenders (that is their job)