Post # 1
I’m still very new to the hive, not to mention engaged life… but have officially picked a date… or make that ‘dates’! I never dreamed my marriage would have to be such a complicated affair, but due to immigration purposes and finances we are officially having our legal ceremony a week from tomorrow and will celebrate our wedding day a year from then, again on the second Saturday of January.
This morning when my FH and I pulled the trigger and decided that this upcoming January 8th was the date, we called our parents to let them know. I have to say that I was feeling incredibly nervous and overwhelmed. I spent the first part of the day in a bit of a frenzy busying myself around the house not really knowing what to think. Its official. Our legal marriage will take place without many of our loved ones or friends present, will be planned at the very last minute, and most likely will take place in our living room with our cats running rampant and dog snoring away on the couch. Now to be fair, I’d accepted for some time that a civil ceremony long before our actual wedding day would likely be a reality for us, but emotionally its much easier to assume this than actually plan for it!
Now here I am… a little time has passed, its settled in… and I can’t believe I will be a wife in 8 days!!!! It feels so exciting and fitting that for us, our day(s) will be a little unconventional and unique, because as I’m sure most do, we feel our relationship, situation and bond together is one in a million. So in the week to come, I’ll be frantically planning my first of two wedding days… trying to find an officiant, location, wedding bands, and then dive into the life of a newlywed couple! A perfect start to an exciting 2011!
If anyone else has experienced a similar scenario or has any suggestions as to how they added to the significance/importance of each day or tied them together, your comments are welcomed and appreciated!
Wish me luck!
Post # 3
Me! Got pregnant and engaged. Didn’t want to be a prego bride, so we didn’t do anything. We were so wrapped up in raising our Dirty Delete that, once we talked about getting married again, I started to think about planning and then got pregnant! Again, didn’t want to be a prego bride, so backburnered the wedding. Had baby #2 and we discussed another wedding. I kind of started to look at venues and whatnot but thought it foolish to have a big to-do because of having two kids. We kind of thought about a destination/vacation wedding with just the kids and … I got pregnant with baby #3!
When our 3rd was 2 yo, one day out of the blue, Darling Husband said “We’re doing this today!” and grabbed me, our kids and our birth certificates and we went to City Hall. On the way, he called a JoP to arrange a time and location while I called our parents and siblings to let them know.
It all got thrown together in a few short hours! We hit the supermarket to get a tussy mussy for me and got our oldest Dirty Delete from school. I wore my favourite outfit from my closet, as did he. Our “reception” consisted of the 13 of us walking into our favourite restaurant after the “ceremony” and asking for a table!
We didn’t do anything (ie: reception or celebration w/other family/friends at any point after our marriage) at all. My something borrowed was my DD’s barrette and I have it tucked away in my jewelry box!
Post # 4
My hubby and I went through immigration last year (fiance visa) and got married by civil ceremony in April. It’s not what I planned either. I always figured I’d have one wedding – not 2. But the timing with immigration meant that my husbands family wouldn’t be able to afford to be here for a wedding right away, so we planned (as you are) a civil ceremony right away and a formal wedding with family, friends and religion to follow 6 months later.
Our civil ceremony was as simple as choosing nice clothes and walking into the courthouse the day after we arrived back in the USA. I wore a blue dress and my hubby wore grey jeans with a white nice shirt and Tweetie tie. Here’s a couple pictures:
My only very slight regret is that I didn’t buy a quick, cheap bouquet from a local grocery store. I saw a couple other ladies there with one and wished I’d had one after it was already too late. 🙂 We didn’t have any reception or anything until our October wedding. We DID go out to dinner with my parents, brother, SIL and their 2 kids. It was a nice day and the courthouse we went to did a nice little ceremony including vows and the ring ceremony.
We didn’t really tie the 2 weddings together in any other way then letting people know that we WERE already married and sharing pictures on our website and in our slide show at the reception.
In the end, both days were amazing and it wouldn’t have been complete without the whole family there. 🙂
Best of luck with all the immigration hassles!
Post # 5
Thanks for sharing your experiences and for the pictures! Very fun stories and its nice to hear you share how the simple, civil ceremonies are just as meaningful!
We’ve pretty nearly gotten everything set-up for our upcoming ceremony. We invited parents, and were pleasantly surprised when siblings and their SO said they’d make the trip too! (We have them coming from out of state and country!) So what we initially assumed would be just the two of us at town hall, is now going to be shared with both our immediate families which is more than we could have asked for!
I’m thinking when we have our formal wedding with family and friends we may try to make mention during the ceremony/vows about it being our one year anniversary and celebrating our first year in marriage! Makes me a little weepy thinking of our one year anniversary 🙂
Only 5 more days!