(Closed) Barely holding it together!

posted 12 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
18627 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I was the same way you were.  I knew he got the ring over a year before he proposed to me.  My best advice is to try and put it out of your mind.  He is probably waiting because he wants to make it special for you.  When he does, it will be perfect and all the waiting will be worth it!

Post # 4
14 posts


    I’m in the waiting situation, too.  I also know that it’s coming, but I also know that it was postponed due to a friend out of the blue getting engaged. He wants it to be special for us, and wants to surprise me even though we’ve talked about it and he knows that I know it’ll come eventually.  I just keep telling myself to enjoy this time – although I’ll certainly be excited to plan, having a full time job and grad school gets exhausting – sometimes I enjoy knowing that I don’t have a specific timeline yet.  Enjoy the time you have together now, because even though it will change in a positive way when you’re engaged, you’ll never have this "dating time" together ever again – think of it as savoring each phase of the relationship.  Do your best to put it out of your mind.  Good luck!

Post # 5
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am one also who is waiting..in this case he is finishing paying off the ring..but I’ve somehow learned to not sweat it.  Originally he’d discussed us marrying this year, but if I don’t feel like there’s enough time to be engaged and get things done, no worries!

Like the other poster said, this is a fun time!  It’s when you both enjoy each other, no worries, no stresses.  Soon, that will change.  You’ll enter as I call it "merger mode" where the actual WORK takes place..figuring out which furniture stays/goes, finalizing some wedding plans, setting the actual date, and there will be deadlines and a goal.  It will be a bit more focused than now.  I know what’s on the horizon and while I’m ready, this is a fun space to be in isn’t it?

Relax.  He loves YOU!  This is a very special time.  Wishing you all the best! 

Post # 6
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I’m already planning our wedding I don’t even have a ring yet, well he didnt exactly propose, just said we needed to get married and have kids and we should look at rings  


He bought the ring already in England, I’m so excited, we’re going to pick out our wedding bands when I see him in June (we’re long distance) I wonder if he’s going to go down on one knee and actually make the proposal official, no worries I’m happy either way

Post # 7
578 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I didn’t have to wait a year. But he made me wait 3 months. DON’T talk about it. This is what I did and when I finally stopped asking and joking around about it. He popped the question. But it is so hard when you know it is coming and you are so excited! GOOD LUCK!

Post # 8
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

It always takes longer than you think! 

Post # 9
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I was going crazy waiting for the proposal – my married friends told me exactly what the other bees have said above!  We had several conversations about "when" … it’s tough to do, but you have to trust your boyfriend and let him have the time and space to propose to you in a special, memorable, and perfect way.  He will!  Have fun!

Post # 10
250 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree with what everyone here said. And when it gets too frustrating (trust me, I’m waiting now and we’re so close and it’s KILLING ME), come to wedding bee and indulge. It gives me my fix so I don’t pester FH while I wait 😀

The topic ‘Barely holding it together!’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors