(Closed) Bartending/cocktail waitressing/nightclub jobs

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I have also been looking into a PT job (in additon to my FT job) I mentioned bartending( I have never done bartending a day in my life) to my SO and he wasn’t too thrilled…he said it’s like being a stripper with clothes on…so now I’m looking into hostess and waitress jobs lol

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

How about changing the kind of bar you work in. Like a nicer upscale restaurant or hotel instead of a young person’s hangout?

I worked at the Westin in their lobby bar and it was better money than other bartending gigs I had, easier usually and I didnt have to stay out to all hours of the night.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MrsWe:  That’s pretty rude… I didn’t realize people looked at me as almost-a-stripper behind the bar at a Ruby Tuesday in my long pants and long-sleeved sweaters (where I still made really great money, btw). 

OP, I’ve done the tame bartending jobs at real reastaurants, and that was really fun, but exhausting because the shifts were long. I’ve also bartended at downtown bars, and that made me feel icky. I wouldn’t go back not only because of the slimy nature of the job, but because I honestly made better money behind the bar at a casual restaurant. The best place to work is really where other people who work for tips go to drink after they get off work. As far as getting a big head from it, that could just be something you need to work on or grow out of, but I never felt that way from it. Serving, on the other hand, was less fun and paid less, but the shifts were shorter and easier. It’s a good way to go if you don’t mind the occasional shitty customer who thinks he’s better than you. 

ETA: I would say serving tables jaded me much more than bartending did, to be honest. I would consider going back to bartending part time if I needed the cash, but never to serving tables. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

@Taeyers:  I thought the same, but if he isn’t comfortable with it, I’m not going to jeopardize my relationship over a PT job…

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MrsWe:  Just a shame to be judged that way even though there was nothing sexual or promiscuous about the nature of my job. I did it exactly the same way as the middle-aged guys I was working side-by-side with, which I think got me more respect and money than if I acted out the part of the cute flirty little bar wench.  I fully recognize that there are many bartenders in bars and clubs that come to work only half dressed, but most bartenders don’t fit that bill. I’m not at all saying you should go get into an argument over it, but I wouldn’t (and don’t) let my Fiance get away with passing sweeping judgements like that without gently correcting him. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

@Taeyers:  I understand where you’re coming from. I’ve never been a bartender and neither has anyone close to me so I can’t honestly defend it since I haven’t been exposed to it…so I just asked him why he felt that way, he explained and he had some valid points ( their dress, flirting and being around drunk men, etc), I also need to work a late shift because I work FT… so now I’m just going to look into other PT jobs.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I worked for a while as a bartender in college (where I made jack nothing) and then after I graduated for a short time as a big sports bar in a well-to-do suburb (where I made a nice chunk of change!)  I did the second one only for a short time so it didn’t “jade” me at all.  Plus, it was a pretty upscale place so the patrons were not too rowdy.

There also was nothing sexual or promiscuous about my jobs.  I didn’t wear any kind of revealing clothes (we had uniforms) and I wasn’t overly flirtatious with the guys (although if I did flirt a lot I did get bigger tips!).  My college SO did not like me bartending in college (probably because I spent less time with him) and I didn’t have a boyfriend at the time I did the sports bar gig.  I don’t think I ever got a big head from it either.  I just saw it as a job.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

@SnowInApril:  I wasn’t overly flirtatious with the guys (although if I did flirt a lot I did get bigger tips!). 

I don’t think I come off as flirtatious but I have been told that I am a natural flirt ( I thought I was just being friendly), so maybe my SO has picked up on that and doesn’t want me doing it because he knows I will come home with tons of moolah 😉 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@MrsWe:  I thought I was just being friendly too, but some of my girlfriends came to where I worked once and saw me and said, nope, I’m a flirt!  I still don’t believe it. Wink

Edited to add that I never did any more than smile and make small talk.  I never gave any one my phone number, never accepted drinks from anyone (couldn’t anyway) and if the guy tried to be overly friendly with me, then I immediately shut up and became very “cool”.  I still got decent tips though!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I worked in a nightclub when I was 21 or so… it was super fun and I made a ton of money through tips. It was nice because all of my lunch/coffee/going out money was all my tip money because it was cash so I ended up saving my actual wages (I also had a full time job) for bills and other stuff.

However, it was not something I could have handled long term. There were so many dirtbag guys who came in and it drove me insane… I swear I was about a month away from punching someone! And since I worked a full time office job at the same time it got pretty exhausting.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@chicagoworkinggirl: I worked in a club industry for a long time (retired from it 2 years ago). I started off as a waitress and then became a bartender.

You make really good money based on where you work and how fast you are…. none of this flaring stuff LOL that’s just in movies. Bartending means selling as fast as you can….. if we are talking about volume bartending.

I’d reccomend it to anyone. It’s a different lifestyle… less sleep, no weekends etc… but you also can make 500$ in working two 6 hour nights 🙂

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@Taeyers:  @MrsWe:  That’s pretty rude… I didn’t realize people looked at me as almost-a-stripper behind the bar at a Ruby Tuesday in my long pants and long-sleeved sweaters (where I still made really great money, btw). 

OP, I’ve done the tame bartending jobs at real reastaurants, and that was really fun, but exhausting because the shifts were long. I’ve also bartended at downtown bars, and that made me feel icky. I wouldn’t go back not only because of the slimy nature of the job, but because I honestly made better money behind the bar at a casual restaurant. The best place to work is really where other people who work for tips go to drink after they get off work. As far as getting a big head from it, that could just be something you need to work on or grow out of, but I never felt that way from it. Serving, on the other hand, was less fun and paid less, but the shifts were shorter and easier. It’s a good way to go if you don’t mind the occasional shitty customer who thinks he’s better than you. 

ETA: I would say serving tables jaded me much more than bartending did, to be honest. I would consider going back to bartending part time if I needed the cash, but never to serving tables. 

 

^^I could have written this word for word myself (including the part about bartending at Ruby Tuesdays!) I feel the exact same way!

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