Post # 1
Anyone else who has had ample talks and discussions and planning with their Boyfriend or Best Friend feel a little frustrated by the “you’re basically engaged” thing?
I think I’m just to the point of getting really anxious for the proposal to actually happen but when Boyfriend or Best Friend and I went to look at settings last week the jeweler was like “well if you’re here, you’re basically engaged anyway.” Yes, well he has to ask me still.
Then Boyfriend or Best Friend has gotten into the habit of calling me his “future fiancee” which kills me!!
I’m worried that when he does actually ask me its not even going to be anything big or planned out or anything “special.” He knows I’ll say yes. I know he’s going to ask. I just hope its something more than just asking because then all I’ll think is “well if this is it, why didn’t we just get engaged sooner?”
I don’t know, random thoughts for the day…
Post # 3
I know what you mean. I worked myself up for a special proposal and it wasn’t what I thought it would be. That being said, it’s still THE proposal and you should try to appreciate it for that reason.
Post # 4
I would stop all wedding talk. It will be more of a surprise then.
Post # 5
@google: I would tell him to knock it off until you have a ring and a date set! I know that by him saying it it takes away the speicialness that you want for when it does really happen and you want something more to go into his thought process than handing you a ring box and going, “hey babe I picked this up for you *sniff* guess you’re kinda my wife now”
*I don’t mean that in any way that your Boyfriend or Best Friend would do that to you, its actually a fear I have of MY Boyfriend or Best Friend would do!*
You’re not alone. 🙂
Post # 6
Haha yeah this is basically my life. It’s definitely frustrating but it will still be an awesome moment whenever he does ask… even if its “basically” done. Try to enjoy this time! 🙂
Post # 7
I think ring shopping, calling you future fiance and talking about it too much is slowly ruining how you will feel when it happens. We were together 8.5 years when he proposed and i had no idea, and it was one of the most amazing things that has ever happened to me.
Post # 8
@google: I agree. I would ask him to stop talking about it so much. My partner wanted me to pick my ring out, so he took me after he proposed 🙂 He proposed with a ring he gave me years ago when he moved in with me. To be honest, I didn’t even notice it was that ring at first. He had to mention that he would take me ring shopping as I was soooo shocked I hadn’t even looked at the ring he had been holding! It wasn’t until about 10 mins after that we talked about the ring lol
Post # 9
Don’t get me wrong — I’m buying my own ring (well sort of) and this is all fun and sort of necessary right now as we’re figuring the ring stuff out. I think I’m just at the phase of “just do it already!!”
Post # 10
I was totally in the same place while waiting! I was worried it wouldn’t be a surprise, or special. He totally knocked my socks off with how he did it (on the beach, at sunset, in the Bahamas!!) I truly had no idea it was going to happen (I think I had kind of given up hope, haha) and it was magical. My fiance wanted it to be as surprising as it could be and something we would both remember. Hopefully your Boyfriend or Best Friend will do somthing just as wonderful- but even if he doesn’t, it’s still YOUR proposal and he’s asking if you’ll commit your lives to each other. Can’t beat that 🙂
Post # 11
We’ve been talking about it for months, too. I agree, all the talk of planning a wedding, honeymoon and kids gets a little tiresome when he hasn’t chosen to propose yet. We picked out a ring this past weekend that we both liked. I don’t want to talk about any of it anymore until he proposes. Frankly, it upsets me and feels like a tease.
I also get the “future fiance” label as well as “the future mother of my children”. Annoying. Men can be such PIA’s sometimes.