(Closed) battle of the formal attire

posted 4 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
45627 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@mrsqueenb:  The purpose of wearing a cummerbund or vest with a tuxedo jacket is only to hide that small piece of shirting fabric that can be visible between the jacket button and the waistband of the pants like in this pic.


If they don’t wear a vest just make sure that there jackets are closed properly for pics.

Post # 4
906 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Vests CAN look good. Unfortunately, when they have a color (i.e. anything not white/ivory/black) I tend to think “prom” not “wedding.” FI is totally into his clothing, so I can tell you that he’s wearing a black tuxedo, white shirt, and black bow tie. No vest or cumberbund. He’s going to buy it and have it tailored to actually fit him.

We are not, however, insisting that each groomsman wear matching tuxedos. They can wear their own (at least 2 of the 5 own them) or rent something that fits the criteria mentioned above. Much like ‘bees often encourage their bridesmaids to wear coordinating dresses that flatter them, FI wants his groomsmen to look good in tuxedos that fit, even if they’re not identical. The identical phalanx of groomsmen comes, I think, from the fact that these days very few men own tuxedos as part of their formal wardrobe and its easier to have them all rent from the same supplier.

Post # 5
922 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think you are perfectly good with no vest!  If you are paying for the tuxes, then you have the final say so (not the other’s family).  The photo above looks just as nice with only ties (you’d only see a smidgen of the vest).

Post # 7
3260 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If you’re interested in rules, a tuxedo must be worn with a waist covering, which is a vest, or a cummerbund.  The vest should normally be black, but can be white.  Cummerbund should be black.  Ties should be black, period.  You can go without a waist covering if you do double breasted jackets on the tuxedos.  Those are black tie rules; wedding rental tuxedos are generally a whole different beast from black tie.

If you want to know more about the traditional rules:

http://www.blacktieguide.com – this site has all the info you need.

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