(Closed) BBQ or Potluck Dinner????

posted 13 years ago in Food
Post # 16
13 posts
  • Wedding: October 2008

@july09bride: I’m in a similar situation as you. I choose to have the meal made by ourselves. I made sure the whole meal can warm/cook while the ceremony is going and no one will have to attend to it. We plan on making all the food a few days before and then storing it in the fridge. Our meal consists of: Roast Beef, Gravy, Cheesy Potatoes, Green Beans, Corn, and Rolls. All we have to do is transport our food to the reception site which has a commerical kitchen and heat everything up for the day. I also ask one of my family members who is a great cook and doesn’t mind watching the food (being that she will also be the one to tell me to sit and not worry about the other aspects of the day). The cheapest catering place I found was Hy-vee and for the amount people coming it would cost a good chunk of $$ we don’t have. I also feel homemade is better then the fancier things as well.

@Bridediy, loveatfirst, and boogerette – My cousin didn’t have a caterer and hired a few people to be waiters and handle the food. My cousin and aunt prepared all the food themselves. I thought it was caterer til my cousin told me otherwise. It was still good food. It is very different from the Bigger Cities (NY, Chicago, etc) and the being on the coast versus rural midwest areas.

Post # 17
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Another suggestion would be to do a dessert buffet that the members of your family can bake ahead of time! That means lots of cakes, pies, cookies, any regional specialties, etc. I think Mrs. Blueberry did something similar, if my memory serves me correctly. 🙂


Post # 18
162 posts
Blushing bee

My Mom’s family routinely has done potluck weddings. There is ususally a large quantity of a main dish (such ast baked ziti) and then the women in the family bring assined dishes. the dishes are usually the staples they bring to the 4th of July picnic or church supper.

We considered this but vetoed it because half our guests will be from out fo town and it could cause them hurt feelings because they can’t participate. So we decided to do a cookie buffet instead. We will ask women on all sides of both families to bring cookies and we will serve milk in single serving bottles (my dad is a dairy farmer) and provide bags for them to be taken home in with a cute sticker from us. This is a tradition with Italian families in many areas. We are also asking for copies of the recipies so we can make a little booklet of them to go with the cookies if they want.

Post # 19
1139 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’m also loving the heavy hors d’ouevres idea.  How many times have you been at a cocktail hour and then regretted eating so many of the delicious little finger foods when you sat down to dinner?  It’s probably the route I would be going if the wedding wasn’t going to be out of town. 

Post # 20
370 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

Coming from a health prospective, nix the potluck, the food will probably end up sitting out to long… the risk or your guests getting sick is not worth the money saved. The largest source of food poisonings occur at potlucks and church functions. (I’m studying to be a health inspector)

BBQ is fine just think "clean" (think fork and knife), people dress up to weddings, the last thing anyone wants is "bbq stain on that white tuxedo shirt"

You can also do a breakfast wedding with coffee, sweet breads, fruit etc

or a wine and cheese reception, different types of wine (not sure if you have BevMo where you are but I got ALL of my wine during the nickle sale) and different cheese and munchie stations.

I also love the dessert reception just be aware those weddings start pretty late.

Just have fun with it!

Post # 21
27 posts
  • Wedding: September 2009

BBQ weddings are the norm where I come from.  They are very nicely catered, but because of the heritage of my area, BBQ is not only expected, but enjoyed.  Go with what you would enjoy, its your day!

Post # 22
3 posts
  • Wedding: September 2009

Aw- I love the BBQ idea!  It would be fun and interactive– I feel like it’d give everyone time to celebrate and enjoy themselves outside (given the weather is good).  I’m all about wedding being fun and laid-back!  I think that trumps the potluck idea just because you’ll be able to cook most things on the spot and everyone can pitch in rather than just a set number of people 🙂
I definitely agree with TallBride– just have fun!!

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