Post # 16
He needs to be prepared to be flexible!! My caterer (who is the venue owner) is offering a 10-page long menu (all stations/buffet style) and said they are prepared for any type of situation. They don’t require meal preference in advance, since there are so many options, but he explicitly told my parents he is “willing to lose money, even if it means everyone asks for filet mignon and no one touches the pasta stations.” That’s extremely generous, mind you, but I think your caterer needs to not bean-count and have a little extra of everything just in case someone changes their mind or wants to try a little of two things! I agree with the sign idea to prompt people that they have a choice/to remember what they picked, or even some polite way for the caterer to ask once people get there: “Which grill item had you selected?”
Post # 17
I feel like the caterer is making a mountain out of a molehill to be able to save on costs for himself. I’d be more sympathetic if he was trying to get more of an accurate count for multiple stations, bit he’s only providing you one bbq station. The point of a buffet is to be able to choose what you want then and there.
Let’s say you did do the tickets. What if Aunt Phyllis, who chose chicken, sees the brisket and now changes her mind and wants it. Can she not get any brisket bc her ticket says so? Who has to be the one to burst her bubble?
What if people lose their tickets? What if people go up for seconds?
I feel like it’d be best to plan instead for everyone to have a little bit of everything.
Post # 18
I second the smaller portions of proteins. Some people wont eat a whole portion anyway so it cuts down on waste as well. Part of the fun of having a buffet is being able to try a little bit of everything. Definitely no tickets. They’re tacky and getting everyone the right one would be an additional task for you to coordinate.
Post # 19
he thinks tickets are a good idea so he can skimp on extras and save himself money. He is only looking out for himself. Say no to the tickets.
Post # 20
I really suggest you don’t do this. Maybe your caterer suggested this because it works well at some events (like when the person has paid for their own food) but this really won’t work at a wedding. You have two basic options here:
1) Do a plated dinner. There is no reason you cannot do BBQ this way, but of course it’s not what you have in mind currently.
2) Have a normal buffet and trust people to be adults and choose an appropriate amount of food. I think it’s ok to ask for beef/chicken/veggie on RSVP cards in order to get a gauge of which options are likely to be popular. But really, the caterer should be able to indicate how much food is needed for your group. That’s their job.
Buffets are often a little more expensive than a similar dinner that’s plated because, although less service staff is needed, you definetly need more food.