Post # 1
I know BBQ being served is becoming more and more common but I want to hear the honest truth if you would feel a way if you went to a wedding and that was served for dinner… It would include a pork option , beef option, and chicken option. We of course would also account for other special circumstances and dietary restrictions. The theme is southern rustic (I live in the south and BBQ is huge) Our wedding is in May if that makes any difference.
Post # 2
Not at all. As long as the food is good, I’m happy!
Post # 3
It’s not my cup of tea, BUT I think is super cute when it goes with the theme 🙂 plus you live in the south
Post # 4
As long as everything else is equally casual, I don’t mind it (i.e. I don’t want bbq sauce on my dry clean only cocktail dress). And no bones (no wings or ribs or whole chicken on the bone). Not only is it awkward to eat in public, I just don’t like looking at a 50-100 plates of other people’s gnawed on bones.
Post # 5
Sounds fun and yummy! As long as you have veggie options for non-meat eaters, I think you’re good.
Post # 6
ebbee : It’s not really that it’s becoming more common. People in many areas and circumstances have always had BBQ weddings. Tv shows and social media are showing everyone different ways of doing things (especially weddings it seems). So people who are used to sit-down dinners in a hotel ballroom and people who are used to potluck meatballs and sausages in a VFW hall are now seeing BBQ as an option. And the people who were already used to BBQ are seeing other options as well. If you’re treating your guests well, it’s not tacky. In fact, imo it’s more tacky to assume that something is tacky when whole geographies and demographics have always done it that way.
Post # 7
That sounds delicious to me! I don’t know or care if it’s tacky. I think it would be fun and May sounds like the perfect time of year if it is in the south!
Post # 8
annabananabee : “As long as everything else is equally casual, I don’t mind it (i.e. I don’t want bbq sauce on my dry clean only cocktail dress). And no bones (no wings or ribs or whole chicken on the bone). Not only is it awkward to eat in public, I just don’t like looking at a 50-100 plates of other people’s gnawed on bones.”
OMG yes. This.
Post # 9
I really appreciate all the feedback and honesty I am getting. This website really helps out with different opinions or stances that I normally wouldn’t think of or consider. I completely agree that if the dining is casual then attire should be somewhat casual as well. I personally don’t think it’s tacky by any means obviously since I’m considering it but I’m a younger bride to be and don’t know every etiquette rule out there and I would never want to offend any of my guest. With over 300 guest being invited BBQ is on the cheaper side of the food cost spectrum which helps out a lot for budgeting purposes. So again thank you all for the feedback this helps me out tremendously getting others opinions that are not in my immediate circle.
Post # 10
Totally fine though I agree on formality to save clothing. No one wants to drop rib sauce on a gown or their only suit.
Also I do get annoyed when the entire meal is all cooked to glop with meat in it. I prefer crisper veggies and while a little meat juice or bacon bits is good, there’s a point where it tastes like canned food, if you know what I mean.
My husband bbq’d at our wedding, though not southern style. It was much loved.
Post # 11
BBQ is fine as long as you also offer vegetarian options and stick to a casual theme.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2018 - City, State
I love a big plate of BBQ sides instead of some wet mystery fish at a wedding. Mmmm. As long as all of your guests are accommodated (ex: don’t expect your vegetarian guests to eat beans with bacon) and the actual food is tasty, I don’t think there a problem with this at all!
Post # 13
I would kill to have BBQ at a wedding. Where I’m from it’s always the same: chicken, salad, pasta and potatoes at basically every wedding. I would love to switch it up to some good ol’ BBQ. Just try to limit the foods people have to eat with their hands (ribs, chicken wings,…)
Now I want some Mac n’ cheese. Mmm.
Post # 14
I am a vegetarian but I love southern BBQ and it is always a crowd favorite.
Just have lots of napkins, wet wipes, and solid plates with tables and chairs for everyone.
Post # 15
Thanks for all the feedback. For all the people saying yes it’s tacky could you please explain why you feel that way?