BBQ Weddings: Honest Opinions

posted 2 years ago in Food
  • poll: Do you think BBQ for dinner is Tacky?



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  • Post # 16
    6925 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

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    ebbee :  I don’t think it’s tacky, but I bet I know why they feel that way.  1) they are imagining being in their finest and slopping rib sauce down their fronts.  2) they think you won’t accommodate vegetarians/vegans/glutenfree/whatever the latest trend in food is 3) they think weddings must be a certain way in all aspects or you’re just having a family picnic like some yokel redneck slob.  They are definitely envisioning you wearing a camo gown and carrying a shotgun shell bouquet, lol.

    Some people need to live a little – we got so many compliments on our wedding food and the event in general, even though it feels a little like we winged it, looking back.  Mostly our guests indicated that they were delighted in the change from the typical wedding.

    Post # 17
    7814 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Echoing PPs–as long as the entire reception is BBQ appropriate–it’s great! I’d rather eat really good BBQ than rubber banquet chicken any day. You don’t have to serve a seven course plated meal to properly host your guests. You do need enough seating, bathrooms and the ability to manage heat/cold/rain/insects. 

    Post # 18
    1707 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I’m an Ok girl who is currently living in a very BBQ-free part of central NY.  I’d LOVE to go to a bbq wedding!  I miss delicious smoked meat.  🤤

    We did BBQ for our welcome/rehearsal dinner  and it was so well received. Along with lots of other things, we had both ribs and smoked chicken on the bone.  Nobody seemed to mind the bones – I’ve never heard that complaint before, although I suppose it has some merit. If we hadn’t had ribs, my flower girl wouldn’t have eaten anything. 😂

    I’ve also been to many delicious BBQ weddings over the years. Make sure you have plenty of food, plates and flat ware, drinks, and keep things kind of casual, you’re golden!  What’s not classy is not taking great care of your guests. 

    Post # 19
    1579 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

    I’ve never been to a BBQ wedding but it sounds fun! Make sure you have enough selection for veggie friends and lots of napkins/nearby handwashing stations!! 

    Just want to make sure you have enough seating, people aren’t expected stand and eat right? 

    Post # 21
    1593 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    BBQ food is my favourite food so I would LOVE to go to a Wedding BBQ.  Echoing PP’s of proper tables and chairs, plenty of napkins and a “dressy casual” or equiv. dress code – my Fiance has one suit and if he got bbq sauce on it (which he would) then it would be a huge pain.  That doesn’t mean the bride can’t get all glammed up of course. 

    FWIW all the previous weddings I’ve been to have been “alternating plates” which is the traditional option here – and the food has always been edible, but nothing to write home about.  I think that sort of meal is overrated anyway. 

    Post # 23
    13888 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m not a fan of BBQ.  I don’t think it’s tacky, but it’s definitely not the ambiance I’d pick for a wedding.  That being said, if someone I knew had a BBQ wedding, I’d certainly attend and have a good time, but it’s just not something I’d ever choose for my own wedding. 

    Post # 24
    28 posts
    • Wedding: December 2016


    i had a bbq wedding in germany, for your reference bbq is becoming more popular overseas but it is still somewhat new and nobody we knew had even a bbq for a big birthday celebration.

    Nevertheless we love BBQ and we did a full wedding in germany with about 100 guests plus 2 live music bands. I agree that you shouldn´t do a bbq in a castle, we went with a greenhouse, huge garde and aplle yards. 

    We offered  pulled pork, beef bisket and a stuffed herbal chicken breast, as well as grilled vegetables, baked potatoes, a full salad bar,…

    We served dessert too, which would be quite important for me to help the feeling of the wedding.

    I think that especially q bbq is an easy way to cater to all dietary restrictations, as there are a lot of gluten-, lactose- free dishes, vegan as well (salads and the grilled vegetable).

    Overall our guests really enjoyed the bbq, many still rave about our food 2 years after the event (we had the caterer tag along his smoking barrels and everything was freshly grilled at the location right before the guests)

    Post # 25
    2849 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    I’m from the south originally, and I would be delighted to go to a BBQ wedding. If you serve iced tea and lemonade along with the BBQ, I’d be doubly happy. 

    Post # 26
    1991 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I don’t think the type of food determines if the wedding is tacky or not. I’ve been to weddings with more traditional food that had a lot of tacky shit going on and I’ve been to super, super casual (like sandwiches) weddings that were not tacky AT ALL! 

    You can serve whatever type of food you like as long as it caters to needs of all guests, is served safely (hot kept hot, cold kept cold), is tasty and there’s plenty of it. To me, it’s way more tacky when a bride and groom try to throw a ‘fancy’ wedding, but end up not budgeting for or being able to afford enough food for everyone. We went to a wedding with ‘fancy’ food but the portions were SO small and they didn’t even have enough rolls for everyone at the table, there was 1 piece of cake for 2 people to share, no appetizers or salad. So the dinner was literally like 2 spears of asparagus, a very small scoop of rice and the TINIEST filet mignon you’ve ever seen. Like a golfball size. We all would have been WAY happier with a big plate of BBQ! 

    Post # 27
    1965 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    As long as it isn’t drowned in sauce it’s okay. I hate BBQ sauce. 

    I think it’s fine. But I’m also in Kansas City where it is huge. 

    Post # 28
    2486 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    I voted that I don’t think it’s tacky but it’s not my prefered food. BBQ is typically harder to eat and messy. It really depends on what type of BBQ you’re having. I went to one with chicken (bone in), and I could tell everyone was uncomfortable eating because there wasn’t a good way to eat it without making a mess or using your hands really at least in some capacity. 

    I agree with no bones. I don’t want to have to eat that in front of 200+ other people and look at their half eaten chicken/rib bones. No thanks. 

    Post # 29
    2027 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    I would love it. I love BBQ and I don’t have high expectations when I go to weddings. Like I don’t expect people to cater to my needs. As long as there’s food I can eat I’m good. I get tired of the same meal like a PP mentioned. I’ve always had salad, some type pf pasta, and chicken at almost every wedding I’ve been to. I went to one that had tacos but only beef option and I don’t eat beef so I wasn’t happy with that. All I ate was refried beans and salad and was not full. I was miserable. But I would love some BBQ.  My family is from the south so I might also be biased. Lol

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