(Closed) BD before instead of after ovulation?

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Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper

You definitely need to BD before ovulation or on the day of ovulation at the latest. The life of the egg is very short – just a few hours – so if there aren’t sperm there to meet it when it drops (during ovulation) it is basically too late. Sperm however can live up to 5 days in the woman’s body. I’m not sure where you’ve seen people on here recommending to BD after ovulation but that’s incorrect. Read Taking Charge of Your Fertiliy for an accessible primer on how to time intercourse to have the best chances of conceiving. Good luck!!

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

If you’re seeing “O-3”, that’s actually 3 days prior to ovulation, not 3 days after. O+1 would be 1 day after ovulation. 
The book tiffanybruiser recommended is great, definitely get yourself a copy 🙂 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Sperm live longer than eggs do. It makes more sense to BD in the days prior to ovulation, so the sperm are hanging out and waiting to party with your egg. 

If you haven’t read Taking Charge of Your Fertility, you should. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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megan28937 :  you’re not an idiot!  Our bodies are complex and most of us aren’t taught much about how they work. I only learned some of this stuff when we started TTC a few years ago 

Post # 7
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Helper bee

When you mention “I see people stressing to BD on ovulation day and the three days after” they may be referring to the Sperm Meets Egg Plan (often abbreviated SMEP on the bee) which suggests BDing every other day starting on CD 8 and then for three days in a row once you get a positive ovulation test.  Note that the OPK becomes positive before you actually ovulate, as it is an ovulation “predictor”– you will usually ovulate between 12-24 hours after getting the positive test, but possibly up to 48 hours after.  So if you BD on the day you get your positive test, you actually are BDing before you ovulate. 

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper

I felt the same exact way when I first came off the pill. I always knew ovulation happened around the middle of the cycle and that was the most fertile period in a woman’s cycle, but that was the extent of my knowledge on the subject! You’re going to love Taking Charge of Your Fertility. 

Also, if you’re using OPKs, you should try to BD for a couple days after the OPK first turns positive because, as pp mentioned, an OPK is an ovulation predictor in that it tells you ovulation is about to happen, not that it already happened. So maybe that’s where the confusion is coming from? You can O 12-72 hours after the OPK first turns positive, so those are prime BD days. If you’re not temping it’s impossible to know when you actually ovulated, so to cover your bases it’s a good idea to keep BDing for a couple days after your positive OPK.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Don’t feel like an idiot! Most women know very little about their cycle and ovulation until it matters most- TTC! Like others have said, it is best if the sperm is waiting there for the egg since the egg has such a short “shelf life”. Good luck!

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

We BD’d -4, -3 and -1 and that was the cycle we ended up pregnant. 

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

OPKs are only predictors, it doesn’t mean you JUST ovulated. Iirc a positive OPK means you’ll probably O within 12-72 hours or something like that. So yeah, if you get a positive OPK, the goal is to BD right away, before you actually ovulate.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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megan28937 :  Yeah you should definitely have sex before O.  Up to 5 days, since sperm can live that long.  Once the egg releases, it only lives 12-24 hours.  So sex 2 days after O is not going to do anything. People saying up to 3 days after O are probably doing it to cover their bases, in case they ovulated later than they thought. 

O-5 is 5 days before O.  O+1 is one day after O.  My second baby is an O-5 baby, so sperm can definitely live a long time (5 days)

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Isn’t it crazy how much there is to learn!? I’m right there with you — new to charting and my mind is blown. 🙂 Good luck!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We DTD on -5, -3, -1, and O and got pregnant this cycle (I was also on clomid). 

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