Post # 1
I’ve seen a lot of brides post that they don’t want any group dances such as the chicken dance, cha chas etc. I just want to throw out a caution here. This past weekend my Maid/Matron of Honor attended a wedding and I was in another wedding across town. We both noticed the same things.
I think the wedding I was at the people didn’t dance because the couples were older 50+ and those of us younger didn’t do couples dances because we were tending to infants/toddlers or our spouses weren’t at the wedding. The only time people danced were the group songs.
My Maid/Matron of Honor went to another wedding the same weekend and she said that it stunk because she went alone without hubby. They only played songs that couples could dance too. She said there were zero group dance songs. She said her and her girlfriends (single girls) left early because they didn’t have anyone to dance with. The girlfriends did dance a few songs together as couples. But she said no group songs took away from the let’s celebrate and have fun atmosphere.
Just a word of caution to not eliminate all group dance songs.
Post # 3
I have to agree with you Vintage and it really depends on the guests. I know we decided to leave just the Macarena out. We kept the Cha Cha and the Electric slide in because at our family events those are the songs that get a lot of people (old and young) to get up and start dancing. Of course, we wish we could have done without but in the end it wasn’t a horrible choice.
Post # 4
oh no! you’re totally right! as much as i hate those dances myself, a large majority of the people that will be there are 50+. those could be the only songs that they really even dance to because they are just one of those things that people know they are dumb, but they get up and goof around with it anyway…. you’re right. i think i’ll just have to suck it up and let them play the group songs.
thanks for the insight!
Post # 5
Yep.. even though we told our dj we didnt want certain songs played.. he informed us.. if he has 30 people asking for a song .. and no one on the dance floor.. hes going to play them. haha.
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Yup! I’ve always noticed that the only songs where almost EVERYONE is on the dance floor are the group ones!
Post # 7
I see your point, but I think it depends on the group of people. We did elimate all group dances from ours and our dance floor was packed all night long. We have a crazy fun group of family and friends who love to dance and let loose, so it didnt affect them at all. But I cen definitely see it being awkward if you are at a wedding with girlfriends or no date.
Post # 8
I agree, Vintage. Although a lot of us bees are probably annoyed by those songs, a lot of older people like them. I’m going to eliminate some like the Macarena and the Electric Slide, but I’ve already had people ask me to play the Cha Cha Slide and Cupid Shuffle
Post # 9
I agree! Personally, I’m a big fan of the group songs (and yes, this includes…the Chicken Dance).
Post # 10
I honestly disagree. A lack of dancing is more likely the result of a bad DJ than no “group” dances. There are far too many good cross-generational songs that get people dancing to have to play these songs if you don’t want them. I think the vast majority of DJs are just bad.
Post # 11
Ah I’m so glad you posted this! I really don’t understand why a lot of Bees seem to be so anti-group dance! I think they’re fun and they get a lot of people out on the dance floor. I’m playing alomst all the group dances at my wedding
Post # 12
I will respectfully disagree because I have seen the opposite to be true. Of the weddings I have attended with dancing, older folks don’t dance, period. Even group dances will not get them out on the floor. That’s fine as no one should ever be forced to participate if they would rather mingle. But the kids think they are great. A lack of dancing though has nothing to do with group dances being eliminated. A lack of dancing is due to a bad dj (or ipod in most cases) playing non-danceable music. Even the best of the group dances won’t save that. At the same time, I’ve also been to weddings where the dance floor was packed and not a single group dance was played at any time. What does that say? But I also think it is very presumptuous to claim that “all” parents/grandparents/older generations will automatically rush to the dance floor when group dances are played since a number of people have never seen that happen. I know I certainly haven’t and in talking to other people I know, they haven’t seen that either.
Post # 13
Actually, the “group” dances like the Cha Cha slide are the few things in the DJ’s arsenal that’s a guarantee. As a photographer, at weddings every week, the DJ’s are always telling me that the “slide” kind of songs are the only GUARENTEED hit.
And it is. I can’t tell you how many weddings where those are the only songs people dance too. And, even when people are dancing, they’re the only songs EVERYONE dances too. I don’t like them either (well, I get sick of all wedding music) but I’m not eliminating them. Parents, Grandparents, etc… LOVE them! I want everyone to have fun. They won’t dance to Beyonce or Lady Gaga, but they love their Line dances!
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
It definitely depends on the group of people. I guarantee that if the Chicken Dance was played at our wedding, NOBODY would dance.
Post # 15
I had a strict “no play” policy and in the end my 6 year old flowergirl got me to relent and let the DJ play the Cha Cha slide. I was so glad I did, it was a huge hit, she was SO happy and we got great pictures. Although not a favorite of mine, I found the group dance songs to be bigger hits than I would have imagined.