(Closed) Be careful what you ask for- negative people

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Maybe she was just trying to be helpful?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@KatyElle: Ditto. I don’t see anything really rude about what she said…

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Maybe you’re reading something into it that isn’t really there?  In text, it really doesn’t seem rude – I mean I get that you probably weren’t seeking advice, but she may have been trying to help.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

yep! I completely ignored them, took a mental note and will look forward to their wedding!!! haa!!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

i think a true friend will give you an honest opinion.  would you rather have her lie to you and then at your wedding, have your guests think or say negative things about your centerpieces?  i think if you don’t want opinions, you should not show people your projects or say, “i’m showing you because i want strokes.  don’t tell me if you think they’re plain, uncohesive, or ugly.”  i don’t think she said it in a non-constructive way.  she was trying to help improve your centerpieces. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Just because she gave an opinion that you don’t like- doesn’t mean she isn’t being supportive. She might of just been trying to help.

I’ve seen bees post that exact same comment on the boards before and it wasn’t taken as a rude comment. Maybe you’re thinking too much into it because of the past issues you’ve had with her.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It is hard to tell in text form if it was rude or not. Here is how I handle these things:

Person legitimately having a different opinion: “Hmm, I will have to think about it. Thanks”

Not sure if they are being snarky or not: “I like them a lot as they are, but I will think about it”

Clearly just being rude: “Oh, well, I love them.”

Have a nice reserve of standard replies so that whenever something comes up, you have a polite and charming response. Charm is the ultimate balm.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@utcalgirl: Can you tell I have gotten a lot of “But shouldn’t you have FLOWERS?!” comments? ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@utcalgirl:  Ok, so because she was interested and asked to see them and then said that maybe it needed a little something was rude because you didn’t offer for her to see them and then didn’t directly ask her her opinion??

Interesting. Maybe she isn’t aware of the rules in this type of situation…I apparently am not if this is how it’s supposed to go. 

Maybe instead of deciding it was rude, take a look at your centerpieces and see if maybe, just maybe, it does need alittle something….just a thought. 

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