(Closed) Be honest- are you disappointed with your ring?

posted 11 years ago in Rings
Post # 137
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@ monitajb: I think it is a little funny when someone says it is sad that other girls think their rings are too small, but then report EXACTLY how big their rings are, no 100th of a carat missing.

 

I agree that it could sound weird when people do that, even though I’ve done it myself. I think a lot of people remember the exact number because its so fresh in their minds. Other people are just better at remembering exact numbers (like knowing that I left work at 5:02pm today, not 5ish– not an important number at all, but I still remember it). I don’t think you could necessarily take from this that the size matters a whole lot to the people who say it. Maybe some people remember it  because the size is super-important, but for others it isn’t necessarily the case.

Post # 138
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@ hedgeknits

I don’t think it means it is super important to them, only that it is odd to, in the same post, gently chide someone for worrying about the size of their ring and then in the next breath report the exact size of their ring. I totally get what you are saying about what time you left today, but you won’t remember that number in 6 months.

I think we should all just admit that how big or expensive our rings are matters to MOST of us a little bit. There are exceptions, clearly, but we shouldn’t chide eachother for something almost all of us feel.

Post # 139
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Bumble bee

monitajb, I hear you!

I also wince a little at how typical it is in these threads to say “I love my ring and I love my fiance”.  I don’t think any harm is meant but ???  What does love for the fiance have to do with the thread?  Can’t we assume everyone with a fiance loves theirs?  Is the implication that people who don’t love their rings don’t love their fiance? It’s probably just because we love saying we love our fiance but… a little thoughtless.

Post # 140
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@monitajb – I don’t necessarily think remembering how many carats your ring is equates to whether or not someone is full of it..it’s human nature to compare what you have to others..

Post # 141
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@ morgan

I totally agree that it is human nature to compare. That is part of my point.

But, I don’t think people are full of it…I think they are slightly not being honest with themselves IF they also claim size doesn’t matter. If the size of the ring doesn’t matter, why bring it up?

Post # 143
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I like the size of my ring and would not want something that requires security.  As long as you love your ring thats all that matters.  Glad my fiance did his homework ;-).  

Post # 144
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It has been over a year since we got engaged and I still look at my ring and I am completely thrilled. Fiance did awesome – This picture does not do it justice – and I took it on the base board in the bathroom and there is actually a smudge of makeup from my fingers where I had recently been handling it after putting on my face Embarassed But I had just read the tutorial and wanted to test it out!

 

Post # 145
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

Not even a little bit. I absolutely love my ring!

Post # 146
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

redo

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Post # 147
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I wouldnt say I was disappointed with my ring but its not something I would chose. Its gold and I dont like gold but it was his great great great grandmas and I feel so honored that his mom allowed him to give it to me, considering his brother had been married before.  

Post # 148
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

okay, newbie here… so hi everyone

1st go around I loved my ring, it was just a plain gold band with a solitaire marquise cut, small .38… but thats all he could afford at the time.  He had designed me a ring that was a 3 stone with a marquise cut and pear shaped side stones in a platinum band.  We broke off the relationship before that ring was constructed.  

Fast forward 4 years

He was in a different relationship and she decided she wanted to get engaged.  She found the design on his computer and had a jeweler come to the house to design something very similar.  He never proposed and never agreed to marry her so I’m confused as to how she came to the conclusion that they were engaged.  Instead of a diamond for the center she used their birthstone, which happened to be the same.  

Fast forward 2 more years

The broke up and about a year later we ended up back together.  He suggested the same ring I had the first time, which I would have loved to have back but his mother owns it now and doesn’t think its a good idea to give me the same ring twice.  He told me about his ex gf and her ring, so now I don’t want that one since he allowed her to basically have the ring he designed for me, then he did something stupid and said why don’t we use our birthstones… okay, again, too much like the ring she had and don’t want it! 

I’m very disappointed about that.  The good news is WE went shopping for something that WE like this time instead.  Got my rings all set, now we just have to find someone who can make his.  

Post # 149
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

@Azalea: so what kind of ring(s) did you end up with?

 

Post # 150
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I still look at my ring and full inlove with it!

Before i got my ring i would draw the type of ring i liked… then one day i couldn’t find my drawings LOL he had faxed it to my uncle who is a Jeweller in NZ and had my ring custom made secretly for me. I LOVE IT!

I look at other peoples rings and say wow that’s pretty but never once i have seen a ring that i have wanted more than my own!

Post # 151
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Nope! I LOVE my ring! My Fiance asked some of our gfs for input and they all picked a round solitaire but a band made up entirely of diamonds…good thing he didn’t listen to them and went with what he thought I would like: a round solitaire, 6 prong, with a thin white gold band. It sounds small to a lot of people (0.86) but he did a lot of research and learned about the 5Cs and whatnot so he would know what would be the most sparkly so everyone thinks it is a carat. Plus, I have small hands (ring size is 3 1/2). Fiance did a great job! 🙂

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