(Closed) Be honest- are you disappointed with your ring?

posted 11 years ago in Rings
Post # 167
33 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

i’m 99% he’s about to pop the question this week (shhhhh he doesn’t know that i know LOL)

i LOVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVE the setting he got for me – i took him to see it at a local jeweler, b/c i saw it there and fell in love while i was getting a watch resized. i then proceeded to drop tons of the least subtle hints EVER for the last several months LOL. we’ve been together for 8 years (yes….i said 8 haha), we are BEST friends, i love him to death, but never trust a man to know his ass from his elbow when it comes to buying you jewelry or clothes – i am pretty confident that had i not dropped the in-your-face hints that i did about that ring, he probably would have picked out something that was totally not me. luckily, i am persistent and blunt 😉 haha

Post # 168
1844 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  I am not disappointed in my ring at all. I ended up getting what I wanted–the center stone is from my mom’s ring from my dad, and I picked out the setting a year ago.

  HOWEVER, when we first went shopping, and I found the setting that I fell in love with, he said he wasn’t going to get it, because I had picked it out and he wanted to. I was a little bummed out. I had three engagement dreams where he halfheartedly proposed with the ugliest rings I could imagine (the last one, coincidentally, occured on the night before I got engaged). I was afraid of disliking my ring. When my co-worker got engaged, she returned the ring three times because she wasn’t sure she liked the setting.

Post # 169
1480 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I picked my ring out myself so if I ever change my mind about it, I’ll have only myself to blame!

My only regret is that the setting might be a bit too simple. I wanted a very understated, modern setting because that’s my taste, and I wanted the stone to stand out on its own. I chose the simplest setting I could find. But now I keep seeing pictures of rings in these amazing, intricate settings and sometimes I wish mine was a little more “pretty”!

Then I remind myself that anything blingy-er would not fit in with my style. I also have tiny hands and fingers (ring size 3!) that would be easily overwhelmed by too much ring. Also, I’m kind of fanatical about keeping my ring clean and am glad my ring doesn’t have more nooks and crannies to catch crud or lint. That would drive me crazy!

I figure if I ever do fall in love with a different setting, it’s no big deal to have the stone re-set.

Post # 170
49 posts
  • Wedding: December 2010

Nope. I’m in love with my ring. The funny thing is that I had went ring shopping with a friend and picked out 3 of my favorite settings and then my fiance and I went together the next weekend. We ended up loving the same one. We were already engaged, because he proposed with his grandmother’s ring. My ring is the Tacori 2620 setting with a 1.56 carat center round solitaire. We ordered the matching band for my wedding band.

Post # 171
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Yes. I am.

I love what it symbolizes and I truly do love the stone, but I wish I would have gotten a straight band (mine is curved) or a halo setting. I originally thought I wanted something classic so I asked for a solitaire w/ a modern twist (hence the curved band) and now I really regret it.

I would love to get a new setting, but Fiance won’t because he thinks that it is ridiculous. I have tried explaining that people get different settings all the time, but he’s not hearing it.

Ah, that felt good to get off my chest! I haven’t really talked to anyone about this except my sister.

Post # 172
540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

hell, no! I’m in love with mine. It takes a close second the my wonderful man. 🙂 It is just what I wanted and more. He knows me best. 🙂

Post # 173
7298 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I love my ring! (Just got it last night!) He asked me to send him a wishlist. We had been talking about rings for months. I sent him three halo designs and one solotaire. He picked the halo I wanted most and I didn’t even tell him.  

Post # 174
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I dont have my ring yet…. (still waiting =) ) but am absolutely in love the setting my BF picked out! We shopped a a few places then realized that an antique ring was more our style, (we are having a vintage wedding). I gave him a few websites to look at upon his request, and know he has already ordered the setting. I then told him the center stone was up to him, but i know that the setting holds an 8cm x 6cm oval shaped diamond, so the stone will be about 1.15 cts. =)

Post # 175
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@Frustratedbird:  This reminds me of my mom’s friend who has a wealthy husband but he bought her a really small diamond. She says he didnt really put much thought into it and just bought the first one he liked. Every few years she upgrades the diamond to a bigger size as an anniversary present to herself, and it has become a huge ring now. He has NO clue, and always makes comments on what a great ring he bought her =) haha.

Post # 176
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

At almost 19 and pregnant, I was very fortunate to receive “the family stone”.  I have no complaints at all!


Post # 177
1 posts

My boyfriend and I are in the process of getting engaged- we’ve looked at rings and it should happen soon.  He left his email up the other day and right there on the screen was an email from the jewelry store where he got the ring.  I only saw one thing- that he had originally wanted to a larger stone and then changed his mind to a much smaller stone.  His budget is not small- so I can’t help but be a little disappointed.  Yes, I’m excited about getting engaged but I’ve thought about my ring a lot and had higher expectations than I think I should.  He also went to look at loose diamonds with his Mom- who is nortoriously cheap (I don’t mean that in an unkind way- she admits it herself) so I’m upset because it seems that he didn’t want to spend the money that he said he was going to because she was around.  I guess we’ll see.

Post # 178
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I have mixed feelings about my ring.

I love it because it was my grandmother’s. I love that it represents my grandparents’ long, happy marriage and I’m honored that my grandfather gave it to DH to give to me.

But…the ring just is not my style. I don’t like how crammed together the design looks or how the diamond is set and the bottom of the band is scary thin.

I’m getting a moissanite solitaire for Christmas and I’m getting my current ring redone–new, sturdier band and a ruby to replace the (new, poor quality) diamond. Then it’ll go on my right hand.

Post # 179
174 posts
Blushing bee

We have shopped for rings, and I had already picked my favorite out when we went shopping, so I was relieved that, out of all the rings we looked at, he liked the same one!

He doesn’t have to purchase the center stone, and the setting is well within his financial ability, so I’m really hoping that he gets the one I love!

Post # 180
20 posts
  • Wedding: May 2011

my e-ring was my Fiance grandmothers wedding band… so I hate saying this… but I don’t like it.

It’s just not me! It has 5 tiny diamonds on it – it doesn’t look like an engagement ring, it just looks like a nice ring. He knows I love yellow gold and hate white gold. It’s white gold. We went and looked at rings together. We talked about rings all the time! And it wasn’t due to money, either. That is not a problem he has.

I feel horrible even saying this, but I think my feelings are based in wishing he had put more thought into it? I feel like he just didn’t want to deal with the pressure of looking and so he just gave me his grandmothers band. I say this not because I am a physco bitch, but because I know him really well and I know how his mind works.

God this sounds so bad it makes my stomach turn.. Please nobody rip me a new one…

Post # 181
3373 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@stooks247 You’re not a bad person for hating your e-ring! Maybe you could get a engagement ring as your wedding band and use it as a wedding band?


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