(Closed) Be honest- are you disappointed with your ring?

posted 11 years ago in Rings
Post # 122
111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My e-ring was my great-grandmother’s engagement ring and it’s gorgeous. I always dreamed of an antique ring and I feel so lucky to have a family ring with a story behind it. I love that its totally unique and no one else has one like it. And strangely, I didn’t even have to get it sized- it fit perfect ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 123
739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

yes I hate to say it but I am….and I already had the middle stone changed once before….BUT Fiance would not let me be a part of any of it and the stone has a lot of flaws and if it isn’t completely clean it looks kinda dirty….I really want to pick out my own stone and I would even pay for it I know this sounds really shallow but I just don’t love it….problem is I don’t know how to bring up the subject or do I just live with a stone I am not 100% happy with Frown

Post # 124
523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

ms sweets:  Just remind him how good he is at something else.  Then tell him that picking out a diamond is complicated, perhaps use a site like James Allen to show him what all of the factors mean (they have zoomed pics of most of their diamonds there).  Maybe his head will explode with the complicatedness and he’ll be begging you to pick out your own.  Don’t wear something you hate forever.

Post # 125
2857 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

I love my ring. I picked it out myself. I love that it’s simple and I love that it’s vintage and cruelty-free.

It’s actually a bit bigger than I wanted, but I’m getting used to that!

Post # 126
32 posts
  • Wedding: May 2009

I always say that my ring was nothing like I ever imagined, but also everything that I have ever loved!  I thought I wanted an e-ring and band that was totally matchy, but I love how they look the way together. 

Post # 127
2000 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I DID want a $7000 ring, but who wouldn’t!???! I always stopped to look at it. But, Fiance found me an amazing ring that is simple & just gorgeous. I’m very happy with what I’ve gotten & I wouldn’t trade it ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 128
332 posts
Helper bee

As long as its from my fiance and he picked it out for me, i would be happy with anything. I wouldn’t want to pick my own out. I think it means so much when he goes and picks it out excpescially for you. Im not a huge fan of yellow gold usually, Im a silver girl. He got me a yellow gold band and a solitare marquise cut and I couldnt be happier, I wouldn’t change it to white gold now for anything. Its special to me because of what it symbolizes and not because its a diamond. To each their own though.

Post # 129
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I love my ring and my Fiance.  My fiance did a great job picking it and I never imagined that I would have such a fab ring! It’s beyond my expectations!

Post # 130
944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

It saddens me to read how some girls have been told their ring is “too small”.  People who make those comments should be hung up by their toenails. I also hate when people ask me if my stone is fake because it is an E in the color chart, which is only one step away from D at completely colorless. I think people who make comments like that are just horrible.

As for my ring, I told my Fiance when we started to discuss the ring subject I wanted color in my side stones to go with our birthstones (mine-aquamarine and his-sapphire) and that I loved antique looking bands. That was it. My Fiance went to see the jeweler we found and worked closely for months to find a band and then the right stones to fit the setting. While I do not have a ring that is 1 ct and up, I am very happy it’s not actually. At .70 cts for the center stone sometimes gets in the way and I wish I had a smaller stone! HAHA Most women want bigger! ๐Ÿ™‚ Don’t get me wrong, I drool over basically any ring because I think they are beautiful, I just know bigger is not better all the time and not always practical. I look forward to the day I find the right wedding band to wear after we get married that I will wear when  I don’t want to wear my e-ring for fear of damage or it getting in the way–i.e. cleaning around all those chemicals, cooking, gardening, working out–I just think a diamond doesn’t belong in those situations. I can’t forget a baby either, I don’t want to scratch my poor little one, when that time comes, with a prong so I’ll probably wear my wedding band most of the time while they are very small and wear the e-ring when we go out or I’m not around the baby. [attachment=678253,88116] [attachment=678253,88117]

Post # 131
283 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am sometimes.  The ring my Fiance gave me was his grandmother’s ring, so I get that it has value as an heirloom, but it has 3 stones – all .25c – and the center one isn’t even a real diamond.  It’s glass.  It was also made of white gold on the top where the stones are and yellow on the bottom below my finger, so between colour and it’s antique style it was almost impossible to find a matching band.

I told him I’d like to replace the center stone with a real one someday, which he’s fine with, but I can only do so much.  I’d also like to have the top made yellow, but I feel like it wouldn’t even be the same ring anymore if I change it too much and I don’t want to piss off Future Mother-In-Law since it was her moms.  ๐Ÿ™

Post # 132
12 posts
  • Wedding: October 2010

I was really disappointed by the ring my fiance proposed with. It wasn’t that the ring itself wasn’t nice – it was actually pretty cool, but not what I had ever envisioned as an engagement ring. I decided that I didnt want to go shopping with him for an engagement ring because I trusted that he would know what I liked. The reason for this was because he was always able to pick out what I would like when I “tested” him by walking by a jewelry store. Thats why I was so surprised by the ring he bought me (which was about as thick as a man’s band and had a spec of a diamond embedded in the center of the band). We ended up goign shopping together after he proposed and picked out another ring. He didn’t mind so much, and I actually wear the ring he proposed with on my other hand – since its a cool ring, just not what I think of as an “engagement ring.”

Post # 133
2206 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think it is a little funny when someone says it is sad that other girls think their rings are too small, but then report EXACTLY how big their rings are, no 100th of a carat missing. I’m not singling anyone out, this thread and many others are full of it. It is really so common, that I don’t even think people consider how it comes off.

If size really, really, REALLY doesn’t matter, why do you know your ring is 0.73 (NOT 0.71) carats? Fiance told me once what carats my side diamonds are, but I can’t remember. But one thing I certainly am not going to do is ever judge someone who honestly lays out how they feel: they wish their ring was bigger. If you don’t feel that way, cool.

Post # 134
3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@monita- I agree.


@kmgaribaldi- I was so afraid of that happening to me, so I went shopping with my BF for a ring. He even admitted that he would have picked out a thick ring for me. Man I was relieved I went with him lol

Post # 135
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I ADORE my ring…I told him that I didnt want to pick out my ring because I LOVED the thought that HE picked it out for me….He did an amazing job…Its a beautiful round center stone and sidestones ( 5 on each side)….He never picked out jewlery for me that I didnt like…so I knew he wouldnt disapoint me! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 136
2249 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2021

I really wanted a vintage e-ring

And then he told me he wanted it to be new so we would know the story so it could become an heirloom for our great grand kids!


now everytime i look at my finger i think of how far in the future he was thinking. and my ring is itty bitty in comparison- i think it is like 1/3 carat, but i LOVE it.

we picked out our wedding bands together though, I really wanted them to be a “set”

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