Post # 31
I do like the idea of just having the officiant mention something, and I thought that would work… Until I realized the need for applying it to the reception as well. I just got on Instagram and seen a million pics of EVERY aspect of a friend of a friends wedding. I mean every aspect. Blurry photos of the centerpieces and other reception details included. Some people think Instagram makes them a wedding photographer and that being invited means they get to share every detail. I don’t mind people taking some photos, but damn YOU ARE NOT MY WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHER!
Sorry I had to vent lol. But all of you guys are right – if the sign is too stuffy, it will piss people off. Maybe I’m being a bridezilla lol. I guess you just announce something and hope that people get the hint and keep a healthy balance.
Post # 32
I would totally understand. I think it’s so RUDE for people to be texting, playing games, taking pictures during a wedding ceremony. I mean come ON people can’t you just turn your phone off for the duration of the ceremony? Have we become so obsessed with technology that we have to have access to it at all times?
The only excuse I could see for texting during a wedding is if you have small kids at home with a babysitter, but even then, I’d be a little annoyed.
The reception itself is totally different and I’m glad to see you realize this OP and welcome your guests taking pictures at the reception.
Post # 33
I wouldn’t stop and read the whole sign so I think you should find a shorter way of saying this.
Post # 34
I’m sure I wouldn’t read all of that so I wouldn’t be offended. I would see unplugged and get the point.
Post # 35
It’s sooooo long. Do you think people will actually read it? I didn’t.
Post # 36
I really like the idea of having an uplugged wedding and think the way this was worded was respectful and not demanding, but asked guests to consider
. I’m also a fan of unplugged because I’ve seen so many people post pictures from the wedding, of the bride and groom, etc. before the bride/groom does and I don’t think that’s okay.
ETA: I do mean for just the ceremony and do agree with PPs that it could be shortened considerably to keep it simple. It seems from your updates you’re working on this.
Post # 37
1. Too wordy/long. State exactly what you would like without having to sugarcoat it that much. I was lost halfway through. It’s a lot to read before sitting down for the ceremony. But what you’re asking the attendees is not offensive.
2. Although… I don’t get why brides/grooms get upset about people taking photos during their wedding (ceremony and reception). As long as someone isn’t being disrespectful or in the way of the bride/groom, photographer and other individuals, what’s the harm. I think it’s pretty cool when alternative pictures have been captured that maybe the photographer didn’t grab. Or if family members and friends are all together, haven’t seen one another in a while and would like to have photos of them. Would they really go up to the photographer and ask him/her to take a photo of them? Most likely not. Weddings are reunions for some people, lots of people catch up and reconnect and like to have pictures to look back on.
3. The worst thing about the phones and what is disrespectful is the fact that people don’t put it on silent/vibrate. So the phone happens to ring at the most inappropriate time. Simple switch keeps the phone from making noise. I get that. Can’t stand even in the movie theater.
Post # 38
Agree with PP’s, not offended– but no need for all the mushy “present in the moment” crap. I’m an adult, I can understand the benefit of turning the phone off for 20 minutes without the cutesy diatribe.
Post # 39
I am clearly in the minority, but I find the attempts to regulate your guests annoying. Not offensive, just a little too self-important. Asking people to silence their phones so that there is no noise interrupting your ceremony is one thing, asking people to “be fully present” is just preachy. I am an adult, I know not to call/text/email/flip through twitter and facebook during a wedding ceremony. If I do happen to check my phone, it’s because something cannot wait – and I can use my own judgement to determine those situations, as well as to be discreet. I would want to extend my guests the courtesy of assuming the same about them.
P.S.: I had the absolute, most wonderful photographer on the planet earth, and received beautiful photos. But I still really enjoyed and treasured some of the guest shots during the ceremony.
Post # 40
Also as a sidenote: I have known two couples who had their photographer either be a no show during several big moments or their card was corrupted and they lost everything. Luckily, those two couples were able to rely on several of the guest photos of their wedding ceremony. One of them mentioned to me that she considered doing an unplugged wedding, and she is so glad they didn’t because her photographer drove into the parking lot of the church and then drove right out before the wedding even started!