- 8 years ago
FH and I have this conversation from time to time. I’d like to stay at home with our future kids for a few years, then go back to work at least part time. I don’t think thats really feasible for us though right now. My mom did it, and my parents aren’t super rich at all, I guess 25-30 years ago it was doable.
I had a work friend who was given this opportunity. Her new DH does very well, and she was having some health issues. She ended up going on medical leave and then not coming back to work at all. They had bought a house based on his salary alone being able to pay for it. I think she wanted to get another job eventually, but I guess a less stressful one.
If I were single and came into enough money to retire somehow, I would in a heartbeat! Would I quit my job and stay home while my fiance worked to support us, no. Mostly I would feel then that I had to keep the house immaculate, cook every day, etc. And honestly I would rather go to my desk job than spend that much time on housework!
@MrsDulce: Yes I would but we would have to be very comfortable on DH salary. Not just comfortable. Right now we could comfortably live on only one of our salaries but choose to both work because “comfortable” is not enough for us.
If I did stay home I would take any free time I had and put my time toward a good cause. Although I am sure being a housewife or SAH mom would be very time consuming I would also need to do someting to give back to my community. I would probably work at a animal shelter in the office area specifically their IT department. So, I would probably work part time doing charity work. This is actually kinda my dream… 😀
I would not do it to be a housewife, but I would to be a mom. I’d be too bored as a housewife I think. I would LOVE to be a stay-at-home mom though…
Hell no, I’d quit in a heartbeat. Comfortable enough to quit? For me, even if he made what we make combined, it wouldnt be enough to quit, cause we could always use more. If he made double what we bring home now, I’d put in my two weeks. Comfortable enough imo, would be maxed retirement funds, bills can be paid, college funds can contributed to, plus at least 3000 extra per monnth to spare.
I would right this second if I could. While I love kids and want them a few years from now, working at a daycare and as a nanny too, I am mentally and phyically exhausted. My boss either doesn’t pay me on time, or pay me for the hours I worked or she is an emotional wreck and I have to comfort her while trying to take care of way to many children. My other boss pays me on time but I don’t make nearly enough and I feel like she think I don’t know anything about children when I have more experience than her. She never listens to my suggestions and the kid needs more sleep than he is getting. End rant.
So yes I would.
However, I would at least be volunteering and finding a part time job instead of the 6- 14 hour days I am doing now.
Yes and no. I wouldn’t be working a full-time job, but I would definitely go volunteer somewhere part-time.
Yes…but may be I’d move to part time. I love what I do. I work with 17-20 year olds at a pretty critical point in their lives and it’s extremely rewarding…but I’d love to step back during our quiet season to do other things.
I love our busy season. 🙂
I would still want to work at least part time. I think I would get bored and go stir crazy if it were just me and the kids at home all day. I would want some other adult interaction and something to stimulate my brain!
I would keep working but then I have a unique situation since I work for myself and set my own hours. As stressful as my job can be at times it is also extremely rewarding and I know that when we do have kids I will be able to spend lots of time with them since I work from home for the most part.
I would work. I wouldn’t ever want to be in the position where I had to feel like I was living off of someone else’s money. I have worked too hard to get to where I am to give that up. I would work part-time, or sit as a director on a few boards of corporations etc. if we were independently wealthy, but I wouldn’t quit altogether. I have no judgment of those who want to stay home but it isn’t for me. My mother always worked and is very accomplished politically and I was always so proud of her growing up. It gave me the sense, as a woman, that I could do anything! If I am lucky enough to have a daughter, I want that for her.
This is actually a very real possibility for us in the not so distant future. DH is in the process of receiving some offers on a handful of jobs making well over what we currently take home combined. I’m still going to continue to work for atleast a little while to bank as much money as possible (hello European vacation!!) but eventually I will quit. Technically I won’t have to work but I still want to as long as it’s on my terms. When I quit I’ll start working on building my wedding planning business. I’m in the process of enrolling for some online classes so not having to work full time will allow me to get through those much quicker.
Even if the new jobs weren’t on the table, I would still stop working after we have a kid. We both agree that me becoming a Stay-At-Home Mom is the way to go (for us). We’re able to live a comfortable lifestyle on just DH’s current income alone so losing my salary wouldn’t be detrimental. As it stands right now, most of my salary is used for savings and fun money anyway.
I think I would never fully quit working… maybe while my child is growing up till their in school maybe and that would be if we could live very comfortably… I also think i would go crazy if i was stuck at home all the time. so… my answer is that even if we were millionaires and we both never had to work a day in our lives… i would still work part time
I would quit my job faster than you could blink if I had the option to stay at home and take care of Fiance and eventually kids. It probably won’t work out that way, but a gal can dream 🙂
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