(Closed) Be honest! Would you keep working if you didn’t have to?

posted 8 years ago in Career
Post # 52
3000 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My dream is to have 3-4 kids and be a stay at home mom with NO job. However, since Fiance is a teacher and doesn’t make millions, I will have to work for a while. My job is very casual and I can work from home doing the same thing I do now so I will continue that for as long as needed.


ETA: Since FI’s teaching schedule is much less time-consuming than a typical 9-5 office job, I don’t think I’d get bored or lack adult interaction as some women fear. He gets done with work at 2:45 every day and has 13+ weeks off every year so I’d get to see him a lot and he will be able to help with the kids a lot.

Post # 53
5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

No, I’d be bored out of my mind! When we have the baby, I will work part-time. I think that will be perfect. I definitely don’t want to work full-time once the baby is here, but I would go crazy being at home 24/7. I need adult interaction, plus financially we need me to work part-time. I think 2-3 days a week will be perfect.

If we won the lottery, I’d still work part-time or at least volunteer with animals a few days a week.

Post # 54
2280 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m kind of already “not working.” DH makes enough that I can work from home (at this point earning little money) as I pursue my dream of a writing/publishing career.

It doesn’t feel like work because I love what I’m doing, and I have as much scheduling freedom as a retired person.

People have this misconception that being a SAHM/wife=forced isolation. By NO MEANS does “not working” mean not being a part of anything! I have time to participate in weekly writing chats, a writer’s group, a book club, direct the church choir, play in bells choir, and volunteer at the library every weekend…on top of writing books, editing/typing for my job, doing almost all the household chores, and going to the gym with DH 4-5 times a week.

In all honesty, the 9-5 life sucked compared to this. With a full-time office job, I was constantly tired and felt like I never had time for anything I really cared about! DH is actually working on developing small businesses so he doesn’t have to deal with that grind anymore either.

Post # 55
1348 posts
Bumble bee

No way Jose. I love to be working. I don’t feel comfortable “taking” my SO’s money. I even feel awkward when he buys me dinner or presents. I’m also a firm believer in separate finances with one joint account for bills and also prenups. If we won the lottery however I would donate a large amount and retire, but travel and volunteer.

Post # 56
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

MY fiance and I both come from homes where our mothers did not work when we were young children. Both of our moms went back to work when their kids were older, post-elementary school. We agree that it will be tight but that we’re going to strive for this situation for our children.


My main concern about staying home full-time is that then I am completely out of my field for several years. That’s a big ol’ gap on my resume, a span of time when employers will believe that I am not keeping up with my industry, new developments and technology and other skills that would keep me relevant in the job market. People have been actively hunting for work in my field for years and remain unemployed, and in this market a long span of unemployment – voluntary or not – makes you look unemployable.

Of course I want to be dedicated to my children, but after they go off to school and don’t need me home all day, then what? Back to the job hunt, but good luck to me with a 10 year blank spot on my resume.

I’d love to find a part-time work situation, even if just a few hours a week, even if it’s freelance, to stay relevant in my field and keep myself employable for the inevitable time when my kids don’t need me to be clucking around the house all day.

Post # 57
170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would absolutely still work – and I would pursue the same career I have now. I am very fortunate to have a career doing what I love. My job represents not only a source of income, but also my dreams and aspirations. As such, it’s a part of who I am, a part of the woman my husband fell in love with, and a part of the mother I will one day be to my children.

When the royal wedding was on the news last year, I heard lots of women wishing it were them. But I actually thought to myself that I would have turned down any prince for the sole reason that marrying one would have meant me quitting my current career for another role. I felt very glad my husband wasn’t royalty :-). That – is how much I enjoy my job. 

Post # 58
77 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I went to school for graphic design, and I also like to write. Soooo I think that if I had the option I would stay home and do some freelance work on the side or write a novel. Ahhhh….dreams…..

Post # 59
2966 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yes. Part time. It’s the best of both worlds.

Post # 60
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Still work?  Sure.  But if I had all the money I needed and some, I’d go back to school.  I certainly didn’t appreciate my time in college the way I probably should have and would love the time to go back and just study other fields 

Post # 61
7899 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I would have to do something, but I would maybe consider being an adjunct instructor and working on my research agenda at my own pace… maybe. It’s hard to imagine having worked this hard to then not pursue the career.

Post # 62
1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Father\'s Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

It’s important to both Mr. D and I that one of us stays home with our someday children. That. Being said, I love my job too much to never come back to it. I think that even if we were to win the lottery that I would without a doubt go back to work. I would miss the kiddos I work with way too much!

Post # 63
3261 posts
Sugar bee

No, I wouldn’t. I would probably take some classes on things that interested me, so I wont get “bored”. And in the future Id be a Stay-At-Home Mom. 

Post # 64
191 posts
Blushing bee

Yes, I would definately still work. However, it would be at a job that I love since money wouldn’t matter. I would love to work with animals but that doesn’t pay the bills!

Post # 65
83 posts
Worker bee

I would definitely keep working. I’ve always been driven to be successful in a career. I love to work and make my own money, and I don’t think I could ever stop doing that, even if/when I retire. And the career that I’m going into is something I’m very passionate about, I would never want to give that up. That’s just me, though. However, if I didn’t need a comfortable paycheck, I would probably cut back on my workload and spend more time traveling and writing. It would be nice to not have to worry so much about job security 🙂 I would also probably volunteer more.

Post # 66
83 posts
Worker bee

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@Jupster:  I was thinking the same thing about the royal wedding! Glad I’m not the only one 🙂

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