(Closed) Be honest…how much planning have you done before the ring?

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: How much planning have you done before getting engaged?

    None. I haven't even thought about what I want.

    I know a potential date

    I know a potential date and location

    I have the whole wedding planned, but nothing is paid for

    I've already put a few down-payments on flowers and venues....and my dress is in storage

    Other (explain below)

  • Post # 3
    358 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Clark Gardens

    I had a lot of ideas and thoughts and plans before I was engaged, but once I actually started planning and having to pay for things, my tastes and opinions changed drastically from what I originally wanted.

    Post # 4
    992 posts
    Busy bee

    I voted for “whole thing planned/nothing paid for” and “other” (sorry, hope that doesn’t skew your poll) Anyway, I have all these ideas, and back up ideas, and even a few back ups for the back ups, lol. I know the general cost of most everything, so I can be ready to go when the time comes.  I’m a planner! 

    *taps foot, checks watch, waiting for that question to pop* Cool

    Post # 5
    329 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We have a potential month. J and I would really like a September 2012 wedding (mainly because the majority of people are finished with their summer vacations and will be able to attend, and an outdoor wedding is more tolerable than say, in July or August when it’s 31+ outside).

    As far as actual planning goes… We know where the ceremony will take place (haven’t booked it though), and the reception location is still up in the air (also not booked). For flowers, bridesmaids dresses (and their gifts), music (including ceremony and reception), etc…? That’s all planned in my head, lol. I just need him to ask!


    Post # 6
    57 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I voted for the “have the whole thing planned but nothing paid for.”  I know where I want to get married, what dresses I want to try, shoes, flowers, reception venue and menu, officiant, makeup… everything.  It’s what I do to keep myself occupied while I wait for my ring, honestly, and it keeps me from bugging my BF with wedding stuff until we’re actually engaged.  I’m a huge planner and I can’t stand waiting until the last minute BF is the EXACT opposite- he even said to me the other day “how long could it possibly take to plan a wedding???”  He was shocked when I told him that people take a year to plan a wedding most of the time. 

    That said, I am completely open to changing things and I know that things will most likely change once we get engaged and he becomes more involved with the planning (I’m expecting him to be a bit of a groomzilla, lol).  And because I haven’t paid for anything, I have a couple of dates in mind but venues and such might have to change if they’re not available on the dates that I was looking at.  My schedule is pretty set in stone in terms of my vacation and time off so I would need to change venues over the actual dates I have in mind.

    Post # 7
    2200 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I didn’t plan anything- just looked at items. I see the engagement time as the planning time and I didn’t want to “ruin” it by looking into it extensively before the ring. I personally also see it as bad luck (counting chickens before they hatch). I do recommend it to other brides who are “set” on a date and all they are waiting for is the ring- however if the date isn’t set- I believe in deciding all things wedding AFTER your engagement is official.

    Post # 8
    3 posts

    Oh my goodness, this is definitely me! My boyfriend and I are discussing getting engaged this winter. That being said, I have already picked out my dress, my wedding band, the venue, the bridesmaid dresses, colors and what the groomsmen will wear. We went to a close friend’s wedding last fall and since then I have been bitten by the wedding bug (or rather, stung by the wedding bee!).

    Post # 9
    250 posts
    Helper bee

    BF doesnt know this at all, but i hqve been thinking about possible wedding specifics for a while. nothing concrete, i just know the theme, style, and colors. likewise, i know exactly the type of dress i want and an idea of the type of location (though i wont bother trying to find actual venues yet because i will likely be moving next spring). im hoping that if/when an engagment does come it will make things easier and give me a direction to go in. unfortunately, it feels like i’ll be waiting longer than i had really hoped.

    Post # 9
    1194 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    For the last couple months, I have been running a side wedding decor/stationary business, so it’s given me the opportunity to look at a ton of ideas, and SO and I have talked about the generalities of what we want.  I know where, I know the month (only a small good weather window on the Oregon coast), and most of all, I know what I want my dress to look like.  I fell in love with a D&G 2008 tweed and tulle runway gown, so I’ll be attempting to recreate it either myself or with a tailor.  Also, as a 2nd timer, I have personal experience from my first wedding; the must haves from the first time aren’t must haves any more!  

    Post # 10
    250 posts
    Helper bee

    oops! double post!

    Post # 12
    270 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I did a lot of research on the place, including emailing with a few of them.  I also priced everything out, because I really needed to know how much it would cost so I wouldn’t be imagining something I could never afford.  It all calmed me down and got me much more comfortable with what I’ll be looking for when the time comes (and it will be soon, yay!).  I also know the month (9/2012 like the girl above).

    Post # 13
    2933 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I had a Word document that was like 30 pages long filled with pictures, ideas, inspirations, etc.  I worked in a job I liked to escape from, and that’s how I escaped 🙂  I thought, with 100% certainty that I would have a black and white damask and lime green wedding, at my parents’ awesome condo beach house in Florida, and I’d wear this gorgeous printed Nicole Miller dress while my maids wore white and we’d all carry these gorgeous deep pink bouquets.


    Now that I’m engaged, the only thing I’m actually doing from those endless pages of inspiration is wearing the engagement ring I’ve always dreamed of.  My dress, venue, city, colors, everything… is completely different.  Figures.


    Post # 14
    7039 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My husband and I had already set a date and picked a venue and caterer – with deposit – before the official proposal. He wanted to do a really elaborate proposal complete with custom iPhone app, and it took longer than he expected. We were already 12 months from our preferred date, and wanted one specific venue, so we went ahead and booked!

    Post # 15
    384 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I planned a LOT before we got engaged. I knew the ring was coming in a matter of a month or two so I figured it was okay. But I had our color scheme, basic flower ideas, invites, even random crap like ideas for the Out of Town haha.

    I’m glad I did though! Life got a lot busier for me now and I’m glad a lot of the decisions are made!

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