Post # 1
Me and the Fiance are trying to work out a less formal and less costly reception. We are thinking about hosting a clambake at the beach in late September.
The permit would close the gates to the public, there’s a picnic area so people arent eating in the sand… We’re not the typical party goers and don’t really dance or drink so we thought we could set up a volleyball net on the beach , bring out our kayaks and fishing equipment (in the fishing area) for guests to use as well…
Food would be assorted seafood, lobster, clams, etc and barbecued chicken/steak. We’d also like to hire a food truck but haven’t settled on anything yet. There wouldn’t be a traditional cocktail hour though…
We we would still go for a dj as well… I guess were just not sure what people will think of our unconventional wedding… Thoughts?
Post # 2
It sounds wonderful! It might not be as low cost as you think though, seafood is expensive. Although I am sure you can cut costs in other areas.
Post # 3
smoocheepoo: Agreed! Can I come? JK 😉
Post # 4
As long as there are bathrooms and the picnic area has a roof overhead in case of weather, you should be good.
As far as drinks, my suggestion would be to get a keg or a cooler filled with assorted beer, and definitely some bottles of inexpensive wine.
Post # 6
cm0529: That sounds SO fun. Could you do a bonfire at night? Could be really fun if friends brought their accoustic gautars to jam around the fire.
Post # 7
cm0529: This sounds great. I wouldn’t even call it unconventional. There are all kinds of weddings and all kinds of receptions. Four Course Plated In Hotel Ballroom, Potluck Buffet At VFW Hall, and Clambake At The Beach are all acceptable as long as your guests know what to expect so they can plan and dress accordingly.
Post # 8
We strongly considered this option. When I got engaged, I had a backyard clambake already planned in my mind. We live near the beach and love barefoot summer days. The catering prices were super reasonable, but every other little thing we needed to do to execute the clambake was really expensive and logistically difficult.
The additional costs included a tent for the caterer, extra staff for bussing, tent for guests, rentals or sturdy disposables/leafware (the clambake caterer provided paper/plastic, but I find it really difficult to eat lobster without something more substantial), licensed/insured bartender, event insurance, restroom trailer, coordinator (I didn’t see how I could set up/tear down while hosting and I didn’t want to enlist guests). I was also concerned about accessiblity for disabled guests.
That said, we went to a lovely non-traditional, informal beach wedding this summer. The couple made no mention of gifts and knowing them well it seemed more appropriate to give them a basket of homemade goodies vs. the $300 check we write for a more traditional wedding. From the looks of it, there were a lot of simple homemade gifts or gifts of talent (flower arrangements from personal gardens, photography, sailcloth “guestbook”, etc) This is something to keep in mind if you’re expecting cash gifts. Theses very personal touches were priceless and so much more meaningful than money, but some couples do count on wedding gifts to set up at home/downpayment/honeymoon. I was super happy to put my feet in the ocean, felt so much love on that beach but I did forgo the food being pregnant and with BBQ/salads being served where we were so far from commercial refrigeration.
Definite plusses and minuses. You won’t go wrong if you have the beach wedding, it just takes a bit of logistical work.
Post # 9
I’m also available to come that day. Sounds delicious.
Post # 10
cm0529: I think the key for me would be that you live in an area where it is still warm enough to be at the beach at the end of September.
Post # 11
smoocheepoo: Yes I know it’ll all add up but when we ran numbers for a bare bones more traditional reception we were looking at anywhere from 30K and up, so anything less is feeling like a win LOL
cbgg: I’d have to check about the bonfire but I LOVE the idea!!
lisianthus: There is for sure much more to deal with in regards to logistics but I think I might get a kick out of, otherwise I mean there’s always the end day where it comes together or it doesn’t LOL. We have more to look into but wanted to float the idea out there. This kind of this is way more “us” so I’m hoping we can find a way to work it out. Thanks for the advice!