Post # 1
What do I doooooo? Going bananas!
My fiancé and I want to do a beach house wedding. We’ve been scouting locations via AirBnB and vacation rental websites (do NOT recommend – everything is super expensive, and they all seem to want to rent Saturday-Saturday). So far, nothing we’ve found has looked IRL like it did in pictures online.
Also, seems difficult to find a spot where we can host the reception with approx 70 people (outside, w a tent).
For others who have done this and found a beach house location that suits your needs and budget, how did you do it? Any tips? Is this easier to do in, say, Outer Banks than in Virginia Beach or ______?
Any advice would be super appreciated!
Post # 2
I looked at doing this but quickly learnt that most properties have a no events policy. Why? Because a lot of these houses are in neighbourhoods with permanent residents who don’t want loud parties being held at the house next door every weekend, which is a fair reason in my opinion. That left the few houses that did allow it and with anything in short supply the price goes up. They also take a big risk on allowing 70 people to be on the property. Have you seen what 35 pairs of high heels can do to a lawn? Or what 70 guests using the exisiting bathrooms can do to your plumbing? Let alone the wear and tear on the house. So I think they have good reason to charge more.
I think it is one of those situations where you just have to suck up the price or change your plan.
Post # 3
Right?? For what I originally thought would be such a laid-back, stress-free plan, this has turned into a stress bomb of logistical nightmares!
We’re only looking at spaces that allow events, but that hasn’t done much good so far.
Post # 4
You’re living my dream!!
I so badly wanted to do an OBX beach house wedding. But D H has never been so he said no. Ugh. I have no advice. But post pictures when you do it 😊❤️
Post # 5
Disclaimer: I am not an expert in beach houses or beach house weddings.
However, from my somewhat limited knowledge, it seems like your vision has two things that are incompatible – beach house wedding and wedding for 70. Beach house weddings in my limited experience are typically smaller (typically only the number of people actually staying in the beach house). And most AirBNB rentals do not allow for events. And I’m going to guess unless you are renting a very big mansion, most AirBNB rentals for a beach house that may be ok with an event will not be ok with an event for 70. A beach wedding for 70 that involves putting stakes in the ground for a tent will likely mean needing permits with the city or county and be restricted to certain areas. This really isn’t something you can just rent a house and then decide to do anything you want on that property or the property in front of it because the beach area directly in front of the beach house is likely city/county/state property.
So this is going to be a tricky thing to coordinate on your own. You may want to consider either a wedding planner/coordinator from the area who is more well-versed in this type of planning, abandoning the beach house idea for the wedding itself (and just stay in one as a guest if you wish) and finding a beachfront wedding venue like a beach/yacht club or restaurant with a private patio, or scaling down your guest list.
Post # 6
One of the main reasons we changed tract. And pp brings up a good point. Each area has a whole set of rules as to permits or no permits etc.
In my research Hawaii was the easiest location but again expensive and then there is the expense for guests.
Post # 7
Yup, permits and etc were one of the first things on my list after reading A Practical Wedding.
Definitely capacity is another, which is one of the problems we’ve been bumping up against. We’ll see if we find a situation that allows us to make it happen. We have a state park on the beach as a back up option, but I really prefer the hominess of the idea of doing it at an actual house.
Curious to hear from people who have successfully pulled off a beach house wedding. What are your lessons learned/advice to give?
Thanks in advance!