Post # 16
Do you have to commit right now to attending for a certain number of days? Can you wait and see how you and the baby are doing at that time, and make a decision then? Can you also ‘try’ to stay the whole week, and if you find it just isn’t working out, go home?
Post # 17
I’d go for the week. We took our 3 month old to the beach for a week and it was fine. I would definitely stick to your bedtime routine but we were still flexible around naps. We brought crib sheets and a portable white noise from home so he wouldn’t feel as disrupted. We would often put him down for the night and trade off who stuck around with him and who went out to dinner. You might luck out like us and have your baby decide to sleep through the night every day of vacation.
Post # 18
Well, my dd is 18 months and we still haven’t taken a vacation if that tells you anything. She did not sleep through the night until 14 months, and I’m afraid an overnight vacation will screw that up. When you haven’t slept through the night in ~2 years, you’ll do just about anything to keep it lol. I’m thinking this summer we’ll go somewhere though.
That being said, our dd would be totally fine napping whenever, or in the stroller/car. It’s just the night time that might be an issue. She goes to bed at 7, maybe 8 if we’re out and about. I just can’t imagine sitting at a restaurant with my kid sleeping in a stroller until 10 pm.
Post # 19
It really depends on what you want. Do you want 3 days for your own sake or would you prefer a week if baby wasn’t in the picture?
I think a week would be a lot for my sanity and I might try to blame it on the baby but babies are easy and flexible…at least in my experience. If my Dear Daughter stays up late, she sleeps in. And she can fall asleep anywhere but usually stays up later than she would because she doesn’t want to miss out.
Post # 20
mrsm42712 : I was in a similar situation last summer: my inlaws rented a beachhouse 1.5 hours away for two weeks. My daughter was 4 months at the time. We ended up going for a week. I knew it would be too long but I wanted to please my husband and his family (and I was hoping if we went for a week they would give us some space for a few weeks after. Wrong lol). The fourth day we were there I snapped at my Father-In-Law because he would not back off when I was trying to take care of the baby. I would’ve much preferred to leave after 3 days but I didn’t want them getting upset and blaming me.
So about your case. It sounds like you are more worried about messing up the baby’s schedule than with your inlaws driving you nuts. Am I right? If so, I think the baby is probably more adaptable than you think. My daughter slept in a pack ‘n play for the first time when we were at the beachhouse and she slept better than she does at home!
But, if you are worried about your inlaws driving you crazy, I would not underestimate that. You’ll be cooped up with them haha. How overbearing are your inlaws? Is he/she the first grandchild? How protective are you of the baby? Do you like people “helping” or do you prefer to do most things yourself?
Post # 21
ExcitedScaredBee : yay I’m so glad to hear this style of parenting is real! I’ve watched my uncle and aunt raise their three babies over the past 6 years, missing out on everything due to nap schedules! They will be missing my engagement party and probably my wedding 🙁 we haven’t had a single family Christmas with their three kids.
Post # 22
Thanks everyone for the input! I definitely do not want to be the parents that never do anything because of the baby. He is only 7 weeks now so I know it will be so different by the time vacation comes.
I I think we will be prepared to stay longer but be ready to leave early if things get crazy!
Post # 23
mrsm42712 : i think you’ll be fine! We took our babies to the beach for the first time at 6 and 7 months respectively. As others have mentioned, it’s a good age for splashing in the water a little, but likely not TOO mobile yet. We do stick to our normal bedtimes for the most part while traveling.
One beach vacation was with my ILs in their RV, with 5 adults and 2 kids in there. When the couch gets pulled out, pack n plays are opened, etc, you cannot walk at all it’s so packed in there. Definitely not ideal, but we made it work. Baby was still waking during the night, and they knew if they wanted us to stay with them, they had to deal with being woken up too.
The other beach vacation is in a huge beach house with my family (40+ people) where at least we (me, Darling Husband, 2 kids) have our own room. We bring the baby monitor, close the door to the bedroom, and we can stay up with the rest of the family.
Since you’re staying in a house, I’m assuming you have a bedroom. You’ll be fine! Vacation is completely different with kids than what you’ve been used to, but you’ll adapt! But if you want the baby to stick to their schedule, make it known that you need to be back from dinner by x:00 for bedtime. If they’re not willing to compromise their schedule in those ways, I’d shorten the trip for sure.
Post # 24
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I’m 33 weeks pregnant with baby #1. My niece is almost two, so I am drawing my answer from what I’ve seen with her. When she was about that age her parents were hesitant to take her somewhere for longer than overnight (still do)…but the reason being they ‘didn’t believe’ in sleep training…she is going to be two next month and they are regretting that decision as it takes anywhere from two to FIVE hours to get her to sleep every night.
If your baby takes well to sleep training, I think three days would be fine 🙂
Post # 25
mrsm42712 : We did a week long vaca at a beach with my in-laws when my daughter was 6 months old and it was great! The 8 hour car ride I could have passed on but it was well worth it. Just invest in a big tent for shade and Some long sleeved/pants coolibar onesies so he doesn’t burn. We’ve kind of turned our kids into those kids that can sleep anywhere and have never been big on “sleep tarining” . Now that they are 3 and almost 2 they can pretty much adapt to any situation which makes life a lot more fun!
Post # 26
fran01 : Actually, the reason we decided to go this route was because we have an Aunt/Uncle who did the same thing. If we wanted to have dinner with them, it had to be at 4:30 because their kids were in bed by 6. They never traveled or did anything outside of their routine, and they wouldn’t leave their kids with babysitters for fear that they would not go to sleep easily and it would throw off their schedule.
It greatly affected their marriage and their quality of life. But it gave us great inspiration to make sure our kid was adaptable!
Post # 27
mrsm42712 : I think getting the baby out will be a great preparation for daycare 2 weeks later (I assume that is your plan since you are going back to work). New places/new people will allow you some idea how your LO will take to changes. Daycare is going to throw off LOs schedule just as much if not more.