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posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What do we do?

    Nothing - it's yeeeeaaarrrs ago.

    Re-wrap original gift, bring it over, come clean.

    Buy new gift, bring it over, come (sorta) clean.

    other...below for opinion.

  • Post # 3
    555 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I would bring it up casually when it’s just you and them and tell them the story of how it was discovered.  After seven years it’s funny and they are obviously good enough friends to have even thought twice about it.  

    Post # 4
    1995 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’d be honest – explain the mix up.  If it were me I’d laugh it off and be happy for a late gift! 

    I would also – explain that if they’ve since the wedding purchased that item you’ll exchange it for something else.  (Hope you can exchange it but even if the store doesn’t, buy them something new if needed).

    Post # 5
    8351 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I definately think you should give it to them along with the story. Since they are friends of yours, I am sure they will laugh about it, in a good way 🙂

    I would also leave it in the same wrapping.

    Post # 6
    8735 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Sounds like they are still good friends of yours, bring it over one night and explain the whole situation. More likely than not, it’ll be one more great funny story that is part of your friendship.

    Post # 7
    13094 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’d come clean and either give them the original gift or buy them a new one.  Honestly, if I was your friend and you told me that story about my wedding gift, I’d find it very amusing!

    I’d lean more towards the original gift in the original wrapping!  Take it over one night with a bottle of wine and laugh about good times!

    Post # 8
    2203 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I voted come clean with the original gift. They might think it’s funny after all these years and it would make me feel better if I were in your position.

    Post # 9
    333 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I’d be honest and tell them about it. If it was our missing gift, I’d probably get a good chuckle out of it. I’d also give it to them in the dusy oriinal wrapping paper!

    Post # 10
    4500 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Definitely tell them! I think it’s a hilarious story!

    What was the gift? I’d give them the original gift, unless by “dated” you mean that it’s a big VCR or something. If you do buy them something new, I wouldn’t pretend that that was what you’d originally intended to give them, because something about the gift may tip them off that it was bought recently, and then…well, there’s no reason to cover anything up. You can just say that you realized the gift never got to them, but by now the gift doesn’t make sense, so you got them something else. 

    EDIT: I didn’t vote because I didn’t see an option I liked. I think you should give them the gift in its original wrapping–that will just add to the humor and charm of it all!

    Post # 12
    22 posts

    I would just explain, and give them the original gift/card… then buy them a round of drinks! I’m sure it will just be a funny thing, and something you can all laugh about!

    Post # 13
    3575 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I agree with @clane616.  And since it’s still wrapped…it would be kind of funny. 

    Post # 14
    6571 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I would just tell them what happened, it’ll make for a funny story.

    We got a gift pretty late after our wedding (not years though!) and I didn’t even realize that the girl hadn’t given us a gift. I never went through to figure out if everyone gave us a gift, I just wrote a thank you as I recieved the present. So they might not have even noticed!

    Post # 15
    1184 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    give the original gift to them in person and tell them the whole story. i’m sure they’ll laugh, it’s a good story.

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