Post # 1
Funny messy question here. I’ve just discovered the gift we bought for a wedding SEVEN YEARS AGO never got to the Bride & Groom. Whaaaaat, you say? How’d that happen?
Fairly simple, really. We bought some glassware, and FI’s parents, also attending the wedding, said they’d drop the gift over to the Bride’s parents’ house the day after the wedding, along with their own gift, to help minimise the ‘Haul-home-a-sack-of-gifts-after-reception’ problem for the couple. Grand.
Fast forward to this week. FI’s mom cleaned out the cupboard under the stairs. What came out? Still in it’s wrapping? Yep. Our gift.
Now what do I do? I should clarify, that this couple are friends of ours. Fiance was v close to the Groom in school, and we do meet them, along with some other friends, every 4-6 weeks for a few drinks. They’ve obviously never mentioned the lack of a gift, they’re too well mannered for that.
Should I just say nothing, it’s ancient history? Should I drop over the gift, and come clean? It is rather dated, though. Should I buy them something new and pretend it’s what we got them originally?
They will be coming to our wedding, and I think I’d only die if they got us something nice, after receiving nothing from us. Scarlet!! They’ve good taste and were well brought up, so they prob will get us something nice.
What do ye think?
Post # 3
I would bring it up casually when it’s just you and them and tell them the story of how it was discovered. After seven years it’s funny and they are obviously good enough friends to have even thought twice about it.
Post # 4
I’d be honest – explain the mix up. If it were me I’d laugh it off and be happy for a late gift!
I would also – explain that if they’ve since the wedding purchased that item you’ll exchange it for something else. (Hope you can exchange it but even if the store doesn’t, buy them something new if needed).
Post # 5
I definately think you should give it to them along with the story. Since they are friends of yours, I am sure they will laugh about it, in a good way 🙂
I would also leave it in the same wrapping.
Post # 6
Sounds like they are still good friends of yours, bring it over one night and explain the whole situation. More likely than not, it’ll be one more great funny story that is part of your friendship.
Post # 7
I’d come clean and either give them the original gift or buy them a new one. Honestly, if I was your friend and you told me that story about my wedding gift, I’d find it very amusing!
I’d lean more towards the original gift in the original wrapping! Take it over one night with a bottle of wine and laugh about good times!
Post # 8
I voted come clean with the original gift. They might think it’s funny after all these years and it would make me feel better if I were in your position.
Post # 9
I’d be honest and tell them about it. If it was our missing gift, I’d probably get a good chuckle out of it. I’d also give it to them in the dusy oriinal wrapping paper!
Post # 10
Definitely tell them! I think it’s a hilarious story!
What was the gift? I’d give them the original gift, unless by “dated” you mean that it’s a big VCR or something. If you do buy them something new, I wouldn’t pretend that that was what you’d originally intended to give them, because something about the gift may tip them off that it was bought recently, and then…well, there’s no reason to cover anything up. You can just say that you realized the gift never got to them, but by now the gift doesn’t make sense, so you got them something else.
EDIT: I didn’t vote because I didn’t see an option I liked. I think you should give them the gift in its original wrapping–that will just add to the humor and charm of it all!
Post # 11
It’s wedding glassware though, at the time I actually didn’t realise how cheesy it was! Should I get something nice instead?
Post # 12
I would just explain, and give them the original gift/card… then buy them a round of drinks! I’m sure it will just be a funny thing, and something you can all laugh about!
Post # 13
I agree with @clane616. And since it’s still wrapped…it would be kind of funny.
Post # 14
I would just tell them what happened, it’ll make for a funny story.
We got a gift pretty late after our wedding (not years though!) and I didn’t even realize that the girl hadn’t given us a gift. I never went through to figure out if everyone gave us a gift, I just wrote a thank you as I recieved the present. So they might not have even noticed!
Post # 15
give the original gift to them in person and tell them the whole story. i’m sure they’ll laugh, it’s a good story.
Post # 16
Ye are all reassuring me. I was feeling so embarrassed!