(Closed) Because I'm a considerate daughter, we can't get engaged till June.

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You could get engaged without a ring, or with a cheap stand-in.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Can you get a stand in and tell your mom that your SO is designing a new setting for the stone and that you will accept the ring from once that’s complete? To hold her off until June?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I say ask her for it now and your dad can get a stand in. shell still be surprised at the show stopper hes making but yall can have your moment too.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@subtlebee:  +1. That was my question- if she’s offering it to you, and has no idea she’s getting a new ring, why not just ask for it now?

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@AllieANT:  Can you just… start planning your wedding now for the date you’ll want? If you’ve planned that far ahead? And have a shorter *official* engagement? I know it would suck having to wait until to June to get your pretties/ring, but for me it would be worth it to make the family logistics work out 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@AllieANT:  Ooooh, understandable now. Sounds like you’re just gonna need to be patient. Or do as @autumnmountainbride suggests and just be engaged and plan now until you can really get your engagement ring. If two people want to be engaged, I think they should be, ring or not. 🙂

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Maybe your dad could just say he is working on a very special surprise for your mom, and then she’ll have to wait until June to see it?  I know it wouldn’t be 100% a surprise for her, but the actual ring would be a total suprise still, plus she’d have the fun of anticipation.

Just knowing moms, I imagine she’d feel badly for “making” you wait until June for your engagement even if she didn’t realize that’s what was happening!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@AllieANT:  Maybe say that you would like rose gold or yellow gold since she has platinum? Maybe she’d be aghast at you downgrading but if its an issue of you liking other color metal, you could just say you really wanted a different color so its not a quality issue since platinum does not come in other colors. Just insist that its what you want and maybe mention using the platinum setting for a right hand ring so she doesn’t think that you are going to be “ruining” her ring. If you insist that is what you want, then she shouldnt have any reason to question it. 

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