(Closed) Because nobody, least of all tiny babies, should have to eat in a toilet stall

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 77
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@FauxBoho:  “Just use a cover and feed wherever you want” — so if your child won’t feed under a cover because it’s too hot?  It is crazy to me that you feel that women supporting other women in the every day challenges that affect us on a daily basis is “an extreme attitude“.

 

Post # 78
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Helper bee

Add me to the list of people who think it’s inappropriate for breasts to be displayed in public for ANY reason! Cover it up and no one has any issues.

 

Post # 79
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@KCKnd2:  I find militant breastfeeders every bit as detrimental to the cause as people who are against breastfeeding in public, actually.

I’m in the “be as discreet as possible” camp. If you’re at the mall, there’s usually lovely women’s lounges in the department stores with couches and nice furniture for this very purpose. There is a lot of middle ground besides feeding your baby in a bathroom stall. It’s really not too much to ask for the extreme sides to compromise a little on this issue.

 

Post # 80
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Bee Keeper

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@stardustintheeyes:  Agreed! Sheesh, find another spokeswoman for your cause, that lady is definitely NOT one who conjures up a lot of positive, convictive thoughts for many.

Post # 81
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@stardustintheeyes: “highly offensive”? ok, i’m out.

Post # 82
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Helper bee

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@stardustintheeyes:  I find it highly offensive that you think a breastfeeding mothers feelings and comfort are somehow more important than my feelings and comfort (or anyone else for that matter). I count just as much as they do and so does everyone else.

I completely agree!!

Post # 83
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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@MrsHS:  No, I’m not saying that supporting breast feeding mothers is extreme. I’m saying that using a quote by Madeleine Albright suggesting ‘there is a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women‘ is extreme. I don’t have to support someone just because we are both women. That is stupid and extreme.

Post # 84
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

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@bebero:  yea… highly offensive…. if someone told you that other’s comfortopinion  is somehow more of a priority than yours or that their feelings or views on something somehow was more important, im sure you would be too. so I matter less because I am not a breastfeeding mom? right….

Post # 85
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

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@FauxBoho:  I said it once, ill say it again. madeleine albright is a lunatic. She actually uses women to make statements that follow her own agenda and way of thinking. That’s it. She’s not about helping women, she’s about helping herself.

Post # 86
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Just curious:

What if you were breastfeeding in a public place, without a cover, and you saw someone (man, woman, kid, teen, old person, whatever) watching you? Not like full on googly-eyed staring, but just sort of watching, like standard mall-people-watching.

Would you feel uncomfortable, or ask them to stop?

Post # 87
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@GoldfishPie:  yesterday I was feeding my daughter in the  car because I had forgotten a cover up. I looked out and there was a man leering at me. He gave me the eyebrow and a wink. I was so appalled I left. 

Post # 88
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’ll be honest. I’m very uncomfortable when someone breast feeds around me. It’s not because I think it’s wrong or I am offended by boobs. I have never been pregnant, I have never breast fed a child. What they’re doing is nothing I have experienced and to me it looks new and a bit scary honestly. Maybe that’s silly, fine. I don’t intend to offend some mother simply feeding her child. I would never be like “ugh, put that sh*t away lady”. Or give her the stink eye. I think to myself, if that were me, I would be uncomfortable having my breast out, even for use as it’s intended. I imagine I would get that creeped out feeling like when an old man looks down your shirt.I guess for me it seems breasts only have a sexual function until you become a mother and society makes me feel like they should be covered. Obviously when a baby comes around, that function changes. (To what they’re intended for lol). I guess I don’t know what it’s like to have how I feel about my boobs change that way and it’s hard to imagine. The discomfort isn’t coming out of some sense of distain. 

 

Post # 89
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

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@Mrscdnnavywife:  that was a creeper lol I think goldfishpie was more asking if someone was just staring the same way they would when people watching at the mall. But the person you mentioned is just a creeper. Not a people watcher, a full on creeper! :O

Post # 90
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@stardustintheeyes:  I don’t think that breastfeeding moms think their feelings about breastfeeding are more important. I think it’s a matter of putting physical discomfort ahead of sociological discomfort. I haven’t breastfed yet (due in a few months) but if I had to weigh a hungry baby, over-engorged boobs and leaky nipples against someone feeling squeamish, I’d put my physical needs and those of my baby first. That doesn’t mean that I wouldn’t do my best to cover up, but if baby’s too hot/won’t latch under a cover then I’ll forgoe a cover.

I’ve always found that 99% of breastfeeding moms don’t want to put on a show anyway, at least in my area. Most wear discrete nursing tops and usually you can’t even tell that they aren’t just cuddling their baby unless you get really close.

Post # 91
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@stardustintheeyes:  the physical comfort of two people is more important than you feeling grossed out. it doesn’t matter if it offends you or not, it’s a fact. the mom can’t help her leaking boobs or her crying baby or the uncomfort of a cover (many babies won’t feed if the mother is using a cover), the baby can’t not be hungry, or not be uncomfortable;but you can just look away. simple.

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