(Closed) Becoming a Step Mother..Insta-family

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m a stepmom to a 5 year old. It’s definitely the hardest thing I’ve ever done. It’s a fine line to walk between being a part of a parenting team, and knowing that at the end of the day you’re a stepparent and that that issue will always be there. You get respect and authority, but not the same as mom or dad does. Then again, it got me out of changing a lot of diapers when my stepson was really little 😉

My best advice is to work with your Fiance and your stepdaughter’s mother as a team. It’s really difficult to all be on the same page some times, but it’s what’s best. Your interpersonal issues have to step aside when it comes to your stepdaughter. Work together on having consistent rules and boundaries between your houses (that’s something we haven’t entirely conquered but we try hard) and keep communication open.

PM me any time if you want to chat about it! You’re not alone, there are a few step parents on here!

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I refer to myself as a bonus Mom. Darling Husband was married to is high school sweetheart and they had a child together. I met Darling Husband when lil’ man was 1 yrs old. He doesn’t remember a time that I wasn’t in his life.

His bio-mom and I get along quite well which makes the situation helpful. We are all on the same page that he has 3 parents. However, I am still not his Mother or Father and I make sure not to cross the line and make anyone uncomfortable. There are situations that happen of course that are out of our control. Like lil’ man sometimes not wanting to leave me and stuff can be awkward when she picks him up, but it’s a reality of life. 

Moving in together was the biggest shock. I was exhausted for months until I adapted!

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