(Closed) Bee honest….do you enjoy occasional evenings alone?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Bee Keeper

I actually don’t. I used to really like being by myself occasionally but I have to say I haven’t felt like that since we have been together. We were long distance for a while in the beginning of our  relationship (like cross country long flight, not a short drive) and I think it kind of scarred us. I just prefer his company I guess!

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Love it. I can eat the ‘bad meals’ Fiance gets mad at me for eating, not worry about compromising on what we watch in the evening, not have to listen to him complain about the fumes from me doing my nails, and I get to take up the whole bed! He’s lucky that I work late one night a week so he gets that night to do whatever he wants, and I kinda wish I could have one night a week where he wasn’t around at all so I could do what I want. I kind of like it when he goes away for work (which is 1-2 weeks total a year, for a week at a time at the most). I’d hate it though if he were gone most nights.

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I enjoy sometimes taking a break from every night with husband, but I don’t really like being alone (unless I’m doing something). I get really bored and depressed home alone with nothing to do. 

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Omg Fiance works overnight from 7pm to 8am and sometimes i cant wait till he leaves! is that horrible? lol He only works 3 days a week so he’s home alot which i love and enjoy, I’m not working right now so we are together 24/7 on his days off but I do enjoy my time alone…. I can get on the bee for hours on end without being bothered lol

Post # 21
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Sugar bee

@bmo88:  I think alone time is critical for a marriage!  DH and I love to be together, but love to be alone or with our own friends.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I love it. I turn into a lazy slob, and bum around and do absolutely nothing all day, and it’s fantastic. He goes on occasional fishing or football weekends with his friends, and I enjoy almost every minute… the only part I don’t love is sleeping alone. I usually force my dog into bed with me for the body heat.

Post # 23
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

DH is never gone for just one evening, but sometimes he travels for work!

I love DVR-ing all the wedding shows! I miss him after a couple of days, but that first night is pretty awesome!

Post # 24
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

My husband deploys often so I have more than enough free time. Nights alone mean he’s deployed, and I hate when he’s deployed. No, I don’t like nights alone.

Post # 25
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Totally. I manage a beauty bar/spa so I work Tuesday to Saturday and Fiance work’s the usual Monday-Friday 9-5.

Sure sometimes I miss Saturdays off with the rest of the world, but it’s our busiest day at the spa and I love that. 

What we enjoy though is how he has “Adam Day” (aka Saturday) to sleep in super late, play with his computer nerdery and do things around the house, and I have “Angie Day” (aka Monday) to run errands, cook for the week, work out and watch my HGTV marathons!

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yes!  My Fiance actually works an opposite shift than me currently (but we do get to eat dinner together!), so I love having my evenings to me.  I would love for him to have a more similar shift to mine, but, TBH, I think a part of me would miss having “me” time at night.

Post # 27
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

DH works afternoons wed-sat every other week, so sometimes I feel like I have too many nights alone, but on a weekday, I don’t mind.  I just watch trash tv, have either a completely crap dinner, or make something I like that he doesn’t, maybe have a bath and go to bed early.  But sometimes I get sick of being alone in the evenings so often, especially Fri/Sat nights.  And then I end up getting upset if he wants to go out with friends on one of his Saturdays off, becuase then we only get ONE weekend night off together all month.

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@Hyperventilate:  🙁  that is tough. Hugs to you.

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I actually REQUIRE alone time. Our very different work schedules allow me alone time 5 evenings a week and I love it! I have never been a “joined at the hip” kind of a gal. FH understands this which is another reason why I love him! Of course I enjoy when we do get to spend time together and of course during vacations but frankly I would go crazy if I had to spend every evening with the same person.

Post # 30
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Bumble bee

YES! My husband works late a lot because he owns and operates his own business so sometimes he doesn’t get home until later. And the random Saturday night he will go have a guys night. I love those Saturday nights! I rock out to Pandora, read my romance novels and drink lots of wine and eat all kinds of crap. I know my husband also likes time alone so sometimes I wil take the dog and go visit my parents for the afternoon. I think it’s healthy to have that time apart!

Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

Its refreshing and it gives me a chance to miss him. every other monday I stay to take care of my mom (right now) and I find myself missing Mr. Sapphire, our kitty and home. I can’t wait to see him tomorrow

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