(Closed) Bee on a Budget: Should I raise my modest budget for this bridal shower?

posted 5 years ago in Money
  • poll: Do I need to raise my budget for this Bridal Shower based on registry items?
    Yes : (2 votes)
    11 %
    No : (14 votes)
    78 %
    I have another idea for you, in the comments! : (2 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 2
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

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    MsTargaryen:  You’re not obligated to purchase things off of the registry. I would stick to your budget and put together a nice bridal shower package. I like putting together a spa day package for the bride. Obviously, it depends on what type of bride she is, but you get the idea. If she likes movies, then put together a movie package (ex: package of dvds, popcorn, wine, chocolate, etc.). Or you can buy the bride lingerie, her favorite book, a beauty box subscription, etc.

    Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2015 - Country Club

    I had several people just give a nice card with a gift card toward one of our registries (amazon,bb&b,macys).

    Post # 4
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    MsTargaryen:  Send a gift card towards whatever stores they are registered at. It’s actually pretty rude of her to not include items in a variety of price ranges.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Go in with a friend, or just send a gift card to one of the stores she’s registered at.

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee

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    weatherbug:  i dont think it’s rude. No one is obligated to purchase off the registry. It’s possible that they’ve lived on their own or together for a while now and just want to upgrade their stuff. It’s silly to put a lot of inexpensive items on a registry to please the guests if you don’t actually want the items. Then you’re asking guests to waste money. 

    OP you can get a gift card in the amount you’re comfortable with to one of the stores. Chances are they’ll get a discount buying off their registry too, so it’s win-win. 

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee

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    dojx:  ditto to this

    OP, the registry is just guideline of list of things she would like. It’s not a mandated list, and as a PP has stated, it is a little rude that she doesn’t have a wider range of prices to accomodate your guests.

    Purchase what you’re comfortable with, or create a care package as dojx suggests. For my friend’s bridal shower last year, I had already spent a lot of money booking the hotel and flight for the bachelorette as well as the actual wedding+wedding present(s)+chipping in for bridal shower. I didn’t have a big budget for her bridal shower so instead I pulled together some things that were meaningful to her, I hosted a sleepover at my house the night before the shower, gave her a custom manicure, baked the cake for the shower, and made a care package for her wedding day that addressed all the beauty needs we had talked about before. She loved it, she even carefully brought the box I had wrapped everything in back to the west coast with her to use as a wedding momento box. Whatever you gift her is a gift meant from the heart, and that’s what matters. 

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

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    MsTargaryen:  you can always give her a gift card, or maybe make or buy something creative off of etsy (like personalized hangers, or ring holders, picture frames, etc). there’s always lingerie also. the registry is a guide, but certainly not required.

    you could also go in with another friend on a larger gift together (ie 2 people splitting a $50 gift ends up only being $25 per person).

    hope this helps!

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2016 - Miami

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    MsTargaryen:  First of all, let me just say that I absolutely hate bridal showers. Sorry bees! I’m sure that’s not popular, but I hate it exactly for this reason. I assume you’re also going to get them a wedding gift… why should you have to get two gifts??! And if I’m invited to the bachlorette, now we’re talking three events. I’m thrilled to go to a wedding and bachlorette, but once I get a shower invite, it’s just too much to me. Sorry… I know that’s going to tick off a ton of people who have had or will have a shower.

    I do have a rigistry, to give people ideas for a wedding gift should they chose to give one, but I will not be having a shower. I say this to point out that I’m biased to shower gifts. Personally,  I always get something small. I’m very generous with wedding gifts, but the shower? I pick something fun and inexpensive. I gave a good friend a $25 stovetop popcorn popper because she was raving about mine. Then gave her $200 cash and another $70 or so gift for her wedding.

    Shower or wedding gift, if there’s nothing in your budget, find something nice off the registry that seems to suit their tastes and fits your budget. Macys always has those 20% coupons, Bed Bath & Beyond is great. So is Khols. Do not feel pressured to purchase something out of your budget.

     

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