(Closed) Bee Real

posted 10 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
2702 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i was thinking the exact same thing a few days ago.

although i love the supportive nature of the WB, i think sometimes the 2-5 word encouragement posts are kind of redundant… (i am guilty of posting these too).

but, depending on the nature of the original post, i think most bees are good at giving sound, thoughtful advice!

Post # 4
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I created a post about this yesterday and received really good answers.


Post # 5
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I only give words of encouragement when I really mean it – if I don’t I keep my fingers from typing. I don’t think there is anything fake about short words of encouragement. Sometimes at work on a quick break that’s all I can give.

Post # 6
3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Jessica….I am sometimes guilty of giving a “great job”, “fabulous”, or “congratulations” on occasion myself….LOL.

But mainly I try to give my honest opinion in a few sentences and not a few words. If I think something would look better tweaked or I think something may work better, I try to state that as nicely as possible…my comment tends to be overlooked…lol…but oh well…such is life.

Post # 7
1601 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

the one time i’ll admit to that is when people post dress pictures.

they’re all great, but honestly, how many ways can you say that the dress is fantastic. most of them are sorta similar, so unless the dress has something unique about it it’s generally a ‘cookie cutter response’.

Post # 8
2403 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i agree with @Sarah, if i’m at work sometimes a short answer is all i can give, and also sometimes a short answer is all that is needed. I only respond (short or long answers) to posts that i feel the need to contribute or truly want to join the conversation. 

But cookie cutter responses can and definitely happen (good or bad) because we all tend to use the same words to say “yeah your DIY invite looks good!” or “your dress is gorgeous!”..haha i know it can be redundant as i read through others comments!

Post # 9
2857 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

I like this post, because I feel the same way! I really only try to post if I have something interesting to say. There are only so many comments like “Beautiful!” and “Good luck!” that a post needs.

Post # 10
5262 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I definitely agree on dress and DIY attempts. I honestly will not say something that I don’t mean – if I think a dress looks horrible, I just refrain from commenting! – but it’s hard to pull out a unique and personalized response for every single one. Ditto Save-The-Date Cards, invites, etc. Most of them are really nice, but few stick out… I still comment when they look nice though, because everyone deserves feedback. 

Post # 11
626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

this community definitely abides by the “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say it at all” which generally I agree with. However there have been a few posts in which people ask for opinions and you WANT to give them your side but you know this community isn’t about balances opinions. 

And thats why so many peoples feelings get hurt in polls like the one we had last night on “what trends you don’t like” and peoples feelings get hurt when youre honest?  I mean.. there is a difference between being catty and rude and saying you are not into pickups or candy bars… etc. We all have to realize we are quite an array of people and opinions, just like in the real world. If anything its a preparation for the opinions you will inevitably hear in the real world. 

Post # 12
3249 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree with Sarah. If I said something nice I meant it. Otherwise I don’t say it. I don’t always have go along with everyone else. For example, here.

In general if I don’t think that I can say something nice or in a nice manner. I tend to avoid a post. I think in the grand scheme of things I think we all know how stressful this time in our lives is…planning and even the waiting girls. Everybody either wants to be positive or give positively charged criticism i.e. I think that’s good but I think if you do xyz, it will be great.

I don’t think being positive makes you any less “real” or genuine. I love that hive is such a positive and supportive place.

Post # 13
2511 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Sometimes I do this, I admit it. It’s not that I’m trying to be fake or boring, but sometimes I just don’t have anything else to add, but still want to show my support. I guess it’s kind of like the “LIKE” button on facebook. People “like” something, but don’t necessarily comment on your status.

It’s still a nice gesture, and at least the original poster knows that we took the time to read their post 🙂


Post # 14
546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t mind on the dress posts, because I think people won’t post anything if they don’t like it.  And, don’t we love people telling us how great we look in our dress!


I do think “Hey, look what Bee level I got too!!” posts are a little boring and redundant.  And then, 50 people telling them that’s awesome.  There just isn’t really anywhere to go with a topic like that…yet there seem to be a ton of them.

I think you bring up a really good point though!

Post # 15
900 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t think this will change as long as people really care about getting their post count higher…

I also agree with a few of you that have said that the dress posts are a little different.  I look back at my dress post all the time and I love reading all of the comments even 2-word ones.

Totally agree with all of you who are saying avoid the fake stuff!  If I have nothing nice to say or if I don’t really care, I don’t post.  On the same lines; I try not to post if what I am going to say has already been said 100 times.  I think a lot of people don’t even read the middle posts…they just comment on the original.  I have had this happen on a few of my posts, when I re-post to clarify or answer a Q, most people don’t read it and then their answers are totally off-topic.

Post # 16
18628 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t post on anything unless I have something to say.  For the ones on engagement, I do like to tell them congrats even though there isn’t anything else to be said.  Honestly, I don’t think that the post count thing is as big a problem as people think it is.  I don’t care about my post count but when I got to a new level it was just a fun little feeling that you have posted that many times.

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