Post # 1
I think this is a ranty one and I do apologise I just really need to get it off my chest :-/
i am actually so fed up of my SO mentioning marriage, our wedding, proposing, when I’m your husband, when your my wife, calling me his missus, wifey, mrs his last name but there just seems to be no action to go with the words..we havnt talked a timeline and he flatly refuses to say when he might possibly propose ..-eg ‘it might be in 10 years time but you never know it might be next year’ his words :-/
it’s so frustrating because I feel I have no control over such a massive step in our relationship ..i love him a lot and I’d marry him tomoro if I could I just wish he’d stop mentioning it every day so I could stop thinking about it lol x
Post # 3
Maybe he’s hinting to see how you’re going to react? If he knows you’re waiting then that’s not very cool of him. Perhaps it’s time to sit down and talk to him. Let him know you want to be engaged and every time he brings it up it stings a bit. Guys are clueless.
Post # 4
Guys really are clueless!
You should tell him how you feel. Maybe you should discuss marriage and the future of your relationship and talk out a vague timeline. I wouldn’t put a demand on him, but after you tell him how you feel, kindly request that he not mention it constantly because you feel this way.
For the longest time my SO thought it was funny when people accidently referred to me as Mrs. (SO). He would say that because we’ve lived together for so long (6 years!) we were pretty much like a married couple anyway. It stung a little!
Around my 28th birthday, I was a little down, feeling “old” and depressed that I was yet ANOTHER year older and we seemed no where near getting married and starting our family. We ended up somewhat laying a timeline out. We discussed marriage and starting a family and basically I told him I wanted to start our family when we’re 30 because I didn’t want to wait too long and be high risk. We are both 28, and will be turning 29 early next year. We both agreed (for non-religious reasons) that we wanted to be married before we tried to have any kids. This gave SO a 2 year window to propose and allow us time to plan our wedding. I’m still waiting… 🙂
Post # 5
I havnt really wanted to bring it up with him because it seems as though it’s important to him that it’s special and that it’s a surprise for me 🙂 I know he’s definitely going to do it I just have absolutely no clue when..I don’t want to put any pressure on him at all so I don’t mention it..the only discussion we have about have been when he brings it up!
he knows i want him to propose and he knows what my answer will be lol x