Post # 1
I’ve been good for weeks, not saying anything about engagement or marriage, and now it’s all I can do not to ask about rings, tell him I’m freaking ready to get married, etc. On our chores list at home where we have whose responsibility it is do do something for the day/week, I was sorely tempted to write “propose” with his name next to it.
I guess I realized I would marry him tomorrow if I could, and I’m going to want to start a family sooner than I thought. It’s weird, but the less engagement is about the sparkly ring to me, the more I want any ring at all to replace my “sigh no it’s not a wedding ring”.
Post # 3
My best advice is trying not to nag… I know bc I am a terrible awful nagger. SO brought up the topic of getting engaged last night and basically said he will do it as soon as possible so that he doesn’t have to hear me complain about it anymore and he can find peace. He said of course he wants a future with me, but this has escalated to the point that he views proposing to me as an obligation. Now I am not sure I even want him to propose, not if he views it that way… I know it’s hard bc I epic failed and brought it up constantly. But you really need to drop it before the engagement is tainted from nagging. I just don’t want you to be in the situation I am in right now.
Post # 4
@buzzyplush: Don’t have any advice just wanted to say I understand your pain. I am in the same situation. My SO even told me he will be proposing sometime this month and I still can’t seem to shut it. I’ve been good for about a week now but its hard. Has he given you a timeline at least?
Post # 5
Not one that’s very helpful. He says either we’ll be engaged by the time I graduate with my bachelors (8 months) or we’ll be married once we finish our PhDs (as much as 6 years). The deciding factor of when seems to be money, though we are the most financially stable couple our age that I know (debt free, enough in savings together for ten of the engagement ring I want… My bf is stingy)