(Closed) Been engaged for five days…and I’m getting the blues!

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m so sorry you’re feeling blue! The first couple weeks of my engagement, I was super emotional and kind of sad, even though I was so happy about our engagement and my now DH is the love of my life. Just do what feels good to both of you and don’t worry about everyone else. It sounds like maybe you’re a little bit extra sensitive right now (which is totally understandable-engagement is a big transition); just try to be patient with everyone. Most people are just excited for you and maybe aren’t sure how to express it in a way that you will feel good about. Although, who makes snarky comments about the size of a ring?!?? That’s so rude! Anyway, have a glass of wine or whatever you do to relax, and enjoy this time as much as you can! Congrats on both graduation and the engagement!

Post # 4
2638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

Just remember that this engagement is about you and your fiance. Outside support is always nice, but as long as you both are happy, try your best to stay in that bubble and enjoy it. 🙂

Some of those comments made to you were totally out of line and I’m really sorry for that. Water off a duck’s back, honey!

Post # 5
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@BetterSherm:  Bottom line, stop letting people get to you. Jealousy can rear it’s head.

For family members asking about a baby, make a short and curt statement: “We when are ready for that step, then we will take it. Right now, we have other plans”. Or you could go the Dear Abbey route and say ‘As soon as we find a baby with a good return policy”. I used that line once and people let me alone. Use humor with it.

For those getting upset with your ring, again try a Dear Abbey line: “My fiance is my jewel. I don’t need a big ring to know he loves me”.

When you make your guest list, PLEASE only include those who care for you. Everyone else can get the party line “our venue is at max capacity, I’m sorry”

Post # 6
572 posts
Busy bee

Unforunately, people are consumed with their own lives and often forget to care about others. I got engaged in Dec. (on our 5 yr anniversary) and we had similiar responses from some. We didn’t want to set a date right away (we have a date now) and wanted to enjoy being engaged. For the most part our family and friends couldn’t be more happy – but like you some have said things that are not so nice or focused on their life problems instead.

Be excited, be happy and remember its about you two – no one else. Enjoy the engagement! I’m sure your ring is beautiful, mine is small as well, no need to go into debt over a wedding and the items associated, but I love it!

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