Post # 1
Ok here goes:
We’re having a small (~40 people) destination wedding on an island where we both have friends and relatives. Our parents know people on the island as well. I am thinking of doing a nice, fairly formal catered rehearsal dinner at a rum factory for all of my guests and allowing for an addition 10 or so spots for family friends with whom my parents might like to reconnect but who don’t know me well enough to actually be invited to the wedding. I realize that last part is kinda off-the-beaten path, but that’s not really what I came to talk about, lol.
MY ISSUE is that I need something super fun to do after the ceremony. I’m thinking about a booze cruise on a yacht/catamaran (I’ve been to a traditional reception w/only 40 people and it was a snooze-fest. I can’t go out like that). It would be waaaay less formal than the rehearsal and this is not a problem for me. But as a guest, I wonder how you would feel about a reception on the water. All thoughts welcome. Also, please let me know if you need me to clarify anything. Thanks!
Post # 3
I think that sounds like an awsome time!
Post # 4
@Overjoyed: yeah sounds amzing!
can I ask why the small reception was a snooze fest? We’re having small so the input would be helpful 🙂
Post # 5
Personally I think that would hella-awesome. I love the water and boats and booze! Trifecta! I would check and make sure that all of your guests don’t have issues with boats (i.e. motion sickness), and that they don’t need to able to get away immediately (I dunno…someone’s sister expecting to give birth in that time period?). I’m not saying these are reasons against your plan, just stuff to keep in mind.
Post # 6
@icetea: Ditto this.
It sounds awesome. Don’t worry about it. AND as a fellow small wedding bride, I want to know what you found snooze-worthy about other small weddings so I can avoid such things! 🙂
Post # 7
Thanks for your input ladies. My aunt’s 40-person destination wedding weekend was a snoozefest BECAUSE:
- she didn’t have any kind of welcome party or get-together, so we wandered around a strange country by ourselves for a day or so and didn’t have the opportunity to connect with anyone beforehand
- we had to rent a car and transport ourselves to the church. This was before GPSs could talk, lol. And the freaking street signs were in French. We were hella late and missed the entire ceremony
- The couple up and DISAPPEARED after the reception. Never greeted us, never said goodbye, never thanked us for coming, never wished us safe travel.
As for the reception it was wack (despite great food) for the following reasons:
- of the 40 guests, 1/3 of them were children young enough to require constant attention from their parents so there was little opportunity for adult conversation
- I honestly can’t recall whether there was music but I know for sure there was no dancing. This is primarily because all of the guests were either (a) related, (b) had never had a prior opportunity to meet or (b) under the age of 14
- it was dry. Come on. 40 people in the middle of the afternoon. And not even a glass of wine?
- The room felt sorta empty with so few people in it.
- There were none of the “traditional” North American wedding things like cutting the cake, throwing the bouquet, etc
- The bride is Caribbean and the groom is Ghanaian. Not even ONE nod to either of their very interesting cultures could be found. It was very Marriott corporate, lol
Post # 8
@HisMoon: thanks for this. I too, get VIOLENTLY motion sick and I haven’t had a problem on booze cruises. I’ll also be including motion sick meds in my Out of Town bags.
I wanted to add for further input: The boat situation will be very very informal. We’ll be DJing with an iPod and going barefoot. While there will be a lovely spread, there won’t be round tables with fancy linens. Would you be willing to eat at a bar or over your lap at an event billed as a “wedding reception?” I’m slightly concerned that my guests will be unable to loosen up enough to enjoy the event because they may be so used to receptions being a certain way and walk away thinking it was tacky “OMG can u believe she made us fly all the way to the Caribbean to eat over my lap?
Post # 9
That sounds so fun! Do the cruise!!
Post # 10
@Overjoyed: As long as you make it clear on the invitations and/or website that the reception is very informal, it wouldn’t bother me to eat at the bar or over my lap. Especially since it’s a booze cruise. I don’t see it as tacky at all. The same situation in a hotel ballroom? Tacky then, lol. Since you have a small guest list, I’m assuming it’s populated by close family and friends who know you and your Fiance well. I wouldn’t worry about them being offended or put off. Heck I don’t even know you, and I wanna come to your reception!
Post # 11
@HisMoon: lol. Thanks! I also meant to tell you that I dig your screenname. FH is a professor too!