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My highschool sweetheart and I are finially tieing the knot. We’ve been together 12 years and we have a 2 year old son. I’m going through readings and vows that my officiate sent me and none of them fit with our situation. We already know each other inside and out we’ve lived together for 10 years, not much is going to change after our wedding day other then a few pieces of paper and my last name. Does anyone know of any readings that might be more spicific to our situation or does anyone know of a good website that lists different readings that I could browse? I’m looking for something that isn’t just “from this day forward” but also includes a bit of the past. I’m a bit new with this not only marriage but with this web site too.
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My Fiance and I are in the same situation( been together for 14 yrs w/2 kids age 12 and 9) Never gave the vows much thought except that we wanted it to be traditional, and we knew we did not want to write our own…but is that an option for you.? Can you write your own?
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That’s so funny that you bring this up, I was just writing out my vows the other day, and I ended up talking about the exact same thing. We started dating the summer before high school and we’ve been together ever since. We know each other inside and out, and have been through so much together.
“The Union” has meant the most to me of all the readings I’ve come across thus far:
The Union by Robert Fulghum
You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way. All those conversations that were held riding in a car or over a meal or during long walks – all those sentences that began with “When we’re married” and continued with “I will and you will and we will”- those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe”- and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding. The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “ You know all those things we’ve promised and hoped and dreamed- well, I meant it all, every word.” Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another- acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, and even teacher, for you have learned much from one another in these last few years. Now you shall say a few words that take you across a threshold of life, and things will never quite be the same between you. For after these vows, you shall say to the world, this- is my husband, this- is my wife.
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Thanks so much for the thread, I’ve just started going through them and like what I see. Neither my Fiance or I are very creative, however our son’s first book was “I’ll Love You Forever” by Robert munsch. I used to cry when reading it to our new born son, my Fiance would laugh at my emotional state. I might use the repeating verse as part of our vowes or something like that. The “Union” was in the ones my officiate sent and it is indeed one of the ones we both like. Thank you again for your input and suggestions.