- 5 years ago
So the quick notes are…
I am a 38yr old widow with 4 sons and a daughter. My husband died 6 yrs ago and so I felt as though I was just going to be alone from nopw on…after all who would choose a woman with 4 young sons and a special needs daugter that we adopted 10yrs ago. And so i learned how to change the oil on my mini van and taught my sons to pee standing up (they were VERY young when their father passed away). I bought my own christmas presents and wrapped them and pretended to be surprised at christmas for my children. I left health care to work with families going through crisis (loosing a family member suddenly). I paid my bills and occassionally had a pity party in my bathtub with the music turned wayyyyy up so my kids dont hear me cry. Dont get me wrong…I wasnt unhappy…just very lonely. Heartbroken and lonely.
He is Dan.
Six years ago he also had a massive loss in his family. His 6 yr old son died as a result of a car accident. Dan was the driver but he was not at all at fault. It took a toll on his marriage and within a year that ended. He began healing by writing and helping others going through the grieving process.
We ran in the same circles…often times just missing each other at fund raisers and charity events…but we had met through email, mutual friends and reputation. One night I was online checking my email when I wrote him about some event…he replied right away…so I wrote back. In the next 24 hours we passed 143 emails back and forth. We decided to stop emailing at the 24hour mark and he dared me to meet him at McDonalds for coffee right at that very moment….and so I did.
That was almost 2 yrs ago.
Today he picked up a ring for me!!!!!!!!!
I am expecting i will get it next week when we go on our vacation. We are going to a cabin on a tiny island off the coast of British Columbia called Mayne Island. (He has a cabin there and its my favorite place.)
Im excited but he doesnt know I know about the ring so I am trying to be surprised.
Oh and just to clarify I know he is proposing soon…we have talked about getting married…picked a date…etc…he has just been waiting to get a ring. (I found out today he’s been paying one off for months now) *insert happy dance*