(Closed) Been With My Now Fiancee For 5yrs

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2682 posts
Sugar bee

Welcome to Weddingbee and congratulations on your engagement!  I think its common that couples argue more or bicker during the wedding planning.  I think you should talk to your FI about how you are feeling.  If its that you are both talking about the wedding too much, set aside a couple days a week where you do not do anything or talk about anything related the wedding.  It will give you both a break.

Post # 4
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860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Hi, sorry you are going through this.  I definitely think you should talk to your FI.  Also maybe consider doing a destination wedding/eloping.  Nothing is worth this much stress.

Post # 5
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256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I know my FI and I have argued much more since we got engaged. I think it’s normal and natural because all of a sudden you have this important event that needs to be planned and it can become very stressful.

Post # 6
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5774 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

When my FI and I first got engaged we had FIGHTS about the wedding. Mostly around the budget (we are footing the majority of the bill). We took a month without doing anything wedding related. We had a serious conversation about the possibility of eloping, what we both really wanted and what we were willing to compromise on. I think the trick is accepting that wedding planning can be very stressful and that you have to help eachother through it (only one of us is allowed to freak out at a time haha).

Post # 7
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37 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - Catalina Country Club, Catalina Island, California

It is gonna happen. This wedding stuff really is stressful. I’ve never fought with my FI so much. It sucks, I know. I’ve never had so many disappointments regarding family involvement. Just know that ppl care, they just will do it their own way.

Post # 8
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472 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant

What kinds of things are you fighting about?  Are they about where to have the wedding, religious ceremony, and budget?  If so, those are the pretty big things that have to be worked out first before you even get into the details!  Some things will have to be compromised on, but this is fantastic practice for your marriage.  Also, talk to your fi about the issues you’re having with his mom.  Maybe he try to see what the problem is and work it out with his family.

Good luck–try to enjoy this time together–it only lasts so long!

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