Post # 1
Up until a few days ago, my parents and I were all about having an open bar for my wedding, but after having flashbacks to past family weddings, we are having second thoughts. My fiance and I are not big drinkers, but everyone else is. And I mean BIG. I do not want my wedding reception that I have worked months planning for to turn into a drunk fest.
Would it be wrong to serve a variety of beers and 2-3 wines instead of having an open bar? We would invest the same out of money into the beer and wine, just take away the hard stuff. The reception is only going until nine, so if people have a hankering for more partying, they they can walk a block to the nearby bars.
My fiance thinks since many people are traveling to our wedding, that if we only serve beer and wine (or even those + a signature drink), we are copping out. I disagree, as we have been in similar situations, and have never thought of it like this, but what are your thoughts?
Post # 3
we’re doing beer and wine only and i’ve been to plenty of weddings where those were the offerings and it was just fine.
when our reception ends around 10:30, there are a slew of nearby bars for the all-night partiers to enjoy.
Post # 4
We did beer and wine only, but told our friends beforehand so if they wanted to bring their own liquor they could. No one got rowdy or out of hand, they had been warned that they would feel my wrath if they did!!!
Post # 5
We served only beer and wine and everyone was fine with that.
Post # 6
We’re serving just beer and wine. I’m sure it will be fine if you do it that way too. 🙂
Post # 7
Our wedding is in France so wine is the normal thing to serve. We’ll only be having beer since my side will want it. There will be a cocktail hour with sangria or punch and beer. Champagne toast before dinner. Then white wine with the starter then red wine with the main course. We haven’t decided if there will be a digestif or after dinner drink.
Post # 8
Could you do full open bar but tell the bartenders “no shots”?
It seems like if people are really set on getting wasted, they’ll do it on whatever you’re serving.
I think there’s nothing wrong with offering beer/wine only, but more from a “way to save money” standpoint vs. stopping people from getting drunk.
Post # 9
I am in the same situation as you. We are having beer, wine and signature drinks (margarita and sangria) only. The hard liquor (and shots) is what usually causes the trouble so there will not be any for the reception.
Post # 10
We’re going to have liquor, maybe one kind of wine, and no beer. That’s only because we don’t like wine or beer and most people that will be there won’t drink more than one or two if any (which is why we’re glad the open bar is per drink and not per person per hour). That being said, if I went to a wedding with only wine and beer I wouldn’t have a problem with it at all.
Post # 11
We’re serving beer and Chamgane. If that’s all you want to serve, I think you would be fine. It also cuts down on the cost of the reception. = )
Post # 12
We’re doing just beer and wine. And it’s not becase of the cost. We just don’t people getting ridiculous at our wedding, and there are some people we’ve invited who would!
Post # 13
Be aware that many people do not like beer or wine of any kind, so you will need to provide lots of nonalcoholic options. For our guests, beer and wine only is not practical as only a couple people at most will drink either of those. Serve what you know your guests will drink that you can afford. Also, alcohol is never required and many people don’t even miss it at special occasions. Either way, it’s not your fault, nor that of your other guests, that some people cannot or will not drink responsibly.
Post # 14
We’re doing beer and wine only. This is mostly because that is what the majority of our guests drink and also because we didn’t want to play the guessing game about what/how much liquor to buy. Our venue is right next to a bunch of bars, so we are just going to arrange some after-wedding drinks specials for those guests who would like to party a little harder/longer.
Post # 15
No way! Beer and wine is plenty!
Our wedding is totally dry and we LOTS of people coming in from out of town.
They’re there to see you get married and celebrate with you — not to get trashed on your dime. At least, they should be. Honestly, don’t be afraid to ask your bartenders to cut people off liberally too.
Post # 16
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I think you should go with your gut. If you’re worried people will be out of control, you can remind bartenders not to serve anyone who’s already clearly inebriated, or you can just serve beer/wine (that is NOT a cop-out!).