Post # 1
I believe in a full, open bar wedding. But my Future Mother-In-Law is planning a beer/wine only rehearsal dinner. Ok, whatever. If you were our guests, would you care? I guess I’ll be drinking a lemonade, sans rum.
**Orginally it was wine only.
Post # 3
We are doing the same beer and wine only because of cost. We just can’t afford to do a full bar or even a speciality drink (which I really wanted). I think you guests will be fine with it unless they don’t drink beer or wine. There are some people I know will be disappointed. But we made the call for budget reasons so I hope they will understand. We are paying for a bartender to run the cash bar if they feel they must have hard liquor. They will have to pay for it but at least it will be available.
Edit: I forgot to add, since it is only the rehearsal dinner, I really think it is ok. I think your wedding party members will be excited to be there together with you and family it wont really matter. Besides, if it were my rehearsal dinner, everyone is paying for themselves.
Post # 4
I think if budget is an issue, this is a great alternative. But fortinuately, budget isn’t an issue here. Future Mother-In-Law tends to just be on the more conservative side.
Post # 5
bring your own flask of rum 😛
Post # 6
I think it is perfectly fine, especially for a rehearsal dinner! I also don’t think people who expect open bars at weddings (which is most people in my area) have the same expectations for rehearsal dinners. I don’t think guests will be upset at all.
Post # 7
For rehearsal dinner, I think it’s totally fine. I’m more likely to want wine at an event like that anyway, since it’s probably much chiller and low-key than a wedding.
Post # 8
I drink wine so it really wouldn’t phase me. But its nice that beer was added. Your wedding is full open bar though right?
Post # 9
Yes, the reception is full bar.
Post # 10
Ah! My computer spazzed and I accidentally voted for “I’d think you were being cheap…”. I meant to vote for “it’s fine…”. And to me it is. I assume you’re having an open bar at the wedding the very next day? So no one should assume it was because of anyone being cost conscious, otherwise you’d be doing that across the board. In fact, it might be wise to limit the selection. This can at least cut down on the possibility of anyone over-indulging and feeling the effects the next day, when you need them on their A game. I wouldn’t worry about it. Wine and beer with dinner are the best compliments to a meal anyway, everyone will be just fine 🙂
Post # 11
I think this is actually a safer choice. Last full bar rehearsal I went to resulted in Jager shots, people hugging trees/Yaar-ing like pirates, and the bride and groom having to drive them all home haha Amusing…yes. But I like planning the idea of the big celebration with crazy stories being at the wedding reception. I, like your Future Mother-In-Law, have mandated a beer/wine rehearsal 🙂
Post # 12
How do you all feel about beer and wine only at a reception?
P.S. Forgive me, VirginiaMarie, for piggy-backing off your question. I just wanted to understand some of the previous posters’ responses.
Post # 13
I’m a fan of beer/wine only rehearsal dinners/receptions because I think people don’t get as intoxicated. That being said (i’ll probably choose a full bar b/c I love my a french martini)…
If you are concerns about not having the option to drink liquor because that is what you and your Fiance prefer, maybe talk to your Future Mother-In-Law about offering a limited selection of liquor or a signiture liquor drink at the rehearsal dinner. You could work with her on deciding on it, she’d probably like that.
Post # 14
That’s ok. I have to say, I expect a full open bar a wedding. I understand why not all weddings can be this way… But IMO, it’s part of being a good host. If I couldn’t afford a full-service open bar at my wedding, I would scale down my wedding. I’m sure that’s going to upset some of you! Sorry! I just wouldn’t!
HAHA thanks for clarifying! When I saw the cheap vote, my heart sunk! I would hate for people to think we’re being cheap.
Post # 15
I understand. We’re planning wine + beer because it came with our reception package. It’s more of an all-inclusive thing to us rather than trying to be cheap. Neither Fiance or I are big drinkers, but we did want to provide alcohol for our guests. I never thought anyone would find a huge problem with that, which is the only reason I’m inquiring more here. Thanks for sharing your thread space. 🙂
Post # 16
I plan to have our rehearsal be beer and wine only. Not for budget reasons, but because I don’t want anyone being so hungover they can’t function the next day. Save the real partying for the reception!
I don’t think anyone will mind. Most folks just go with the flow on this kind of thing.
If they really can’t be without booze for an evening, they may have a bigger issue to deal with!